We're all insensitive bastards who like to eat gravel for breakfast and insult our reflection in the mirror just for the hell of it.
Rah! And such.
The only thing I would add to this is to not try to resolve the issue in the 'heat of the moment'. It takes self control to do this, but (as my husband explained to me) most alpha males--the driven, solution-oriented sort--avoid strong displays of emotion. Historically, things that would elicit strong displays of emotion by that kind of man would result in someone or something getting killed, lol. They would just prefer to find a solution to the issue & thus the emotional aspect will likewise go away.
It helps, as a woman, if you actually bring some kind of solution to the table in your discussion, rather than just venting at him. Teach your husband to address your emotions without feeling he needs to solve your problem. He will need to feel safe in order to do this (i.e. that you really don't expect him to 'fix' things for you).
In general, guys ACT to relieve or prevent strong emotion. Women VENT before they can act. The sexes come at problems from different directions. Try to meet someplace in the middle.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
Like someone said before i just need to find someone other than my husband to vent to. Its no big deal i just dont understand why most males cant sit down and try to understand women as much as woemn try to understand men?!?!?!?!?!?!
When life gives you lemons, shove em' in your bra and make your boobs look bigger!
Man asks his wife "Why do you wear a bra, you have nothing to put in it?" Wife responds " You were underwear dont you?"
Unfortunetly, hell had no vacancies! lol
um first off i dont think all men drink beer and watch football. many do but not all. and i do think that most of the time the biggest problem in people's relationships is communication. But everyone needs to learn from one another!
When life gives you lemons, shove em' in your bra and make your boobs look bigger!
Man asks his wife "Why do you wear a bra, you have nothing to put in it?" Wife responds " You were underwear dont you?"
Unfortunetly, hell had no vacancies! lol
I was giving the summary of what most men are into. The point is, men aren't NEAR as complicated as women. Don't expect a man to want to spend his life trying to understand your species.
That's bullshit, too.
We're plenty connected to our emotional side.
We just don't drown ourselves in it like some women are apt to doing.
Maybe if more women picked up a trade or did less clerical work, they'd be able to exercise their problem solving skills more than their gossip skills.
Okay first off..I do not do any "CLERICAL"
work..if you have read my profile I am a automotive mechanic already and am in school learning to be a Diesel Mechanic. Doesnt take a woman away from most
Feminine ways..because deep down every woman is very involved with her feelings...like i said before most women are this way. I dont think a woman's place of work has anything to do with how she handles things.
When life gives you lemons, shove em' in your bra and make your boobs look bigger!
Man asks his wife "Why do you wear a bra, you have nothing to put in it?" Wife responds " You were underwear dont you?"
Unfortunetly, hell had no vacancies! lol
this thread is a perfect example of what I was saying. You aren't interested in listening to our advice or finding a solution to your problem(s) - you just want an audience for your bitching.
sometimes people just want to vent.
baby ya hustle. but me i hustle harder.
I never said I didnt want advice I said that I didnt want to be preached at about how women are harder to understand than women...and that most women have this particular job or whatnot im not going to argue about it I DO WANT ADVICE I DONT WANT TO BE PREACHED AT THAT I AM A PAIN IN THE ASS OR THAT WOMEN ARE MORE CONFUSING THAN MEN
When life gives you lemons, shove em' in your bra and make your boobs look bigger!
Man asks his wife "Why do you wear a bra, you have nothing to put in it?" Wife responds " You were underwear dont you?"
Unfortunetly, hell had no vacancies! lol