Screw ups may break us ... please help

[Cain]

I could, if I didn't care about her, yes she is insecure, how do I help her in her insecurity and keep from getting walked over at the same time?

I noticed but I don't know what to do.

She's too young and immature to get over her insecurities right now, and she may never get over them. I don't recommend taking the risk.

[Idoito]

just wanted to ask how would you help a girl who is insecure become more insecure about herself, I love her and I don't want her to continue living like this, do I confront her when she brings things up and try to set her mind straight even if it upsets her or what?

Im only 19 and this is the first relationship I have actually cared about, I don't know what to do.

[Cain]

I already told you that you can't make her not be so insecure. She has to do that, and at her age, being insecure is very normal. She's still immature.

[Idoito]

and you are telling me that there isn't ANYTHING AT ALL that I can do to perceive herself as being as beautiful as she really is?

[Cain]

and you are telling me that there isn't ANYTHING AT ALL that I can do to perceive herself as being as beautiful as she really is?

No! You can reassure her all you want to but that won't change her image of herself. SHE is the only one that can change that image.

[Idoito]

I just wanted to ask, do guys struggle with actually seeing images inside their head while actually having sex?

[Cain]

I just wanted to ask, do guys struggle with actually seeing images inside their head while actually having sex?

Think about this. Your gf isn't the most beautiful woman in the world and I'm sure you've seen a lot more beautiful women in that porn you watched. It's natural that you're going to have images of those women in your head. The thing you don't want to do is try to act on it by getting with another woman or telling your gf about these fantasies of yours. What goes on in your head needs to stay there.