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    Quote Originally Posted by boobaa View Post
    We are all blood. originate from the same place. So I don't speak from this point, do what you want, I actually don't find it so bad. Cousin has enough all kinds of blood.
    Its blood omg omg. ****, its not so bad, step away from your gross factor. People have done it, our whole generations are from such marriages. It isn't actually that wrong. Yeah yeah, the talk about disfigured child which I don't believe is so proven (50/50 like with everything else), but it is their decision, thats the risk they probably already know.

    So, it is more important to talk about risks they probably don't know:
    Think about what Gribble first said. There will be problems, and then it would be much harder to handle, and everybody will be in your business since its all one big village. I think in the long perspective, you will just grow out from each other, its hormonal stage.
    Since blood doesn't matter, would you **** your mother?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cain View Post
    Since blood doesn't matter, would you **** your mother?

    No, I am not sexually attracted to my mother. And of course there are moral standards, but its not actual blood.
    Don't expect anything.

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    You know, I really start to wonder about this world sometimes. There are billions of people in this world and yet... people want to date family members, interfere in relationships, settle for someone that doesn't deserve them, etc... It's as if people are so afraid to be alone that they just lower their standards and morality just so they aren't lonely. Some of these people, like the OP, haven't even reached legal age yet when they start to feel this way. Of course they won't admit it, but it's obvious.

    With so many people in this world, I fail to see how anyone can justify being in a relationship with someone in their family. Even if you don't have a problem with the blood aspect, you should have a problem with the fact that it risks destroying the family dynamic. Especially if the "relationship" ends badly. Aside from that, they are 17 and 16 years old, not nearly old enough to "fall in love" and if they try to announce their love for each other, they're going to place a major strain on their family when they don't even know what love is.

    I just wish people would realize that you don't have to settle. You can find someone that fits what you're looking for... just open your damn eyes. There's too many men and women out there to do shit like this.

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    Inbreeding is not generally recommended because of the existence of deleterious recessive alleles in most populations. Although these should be rare per gene (usually much less than 10-3, see mutation-selection balance), there will be many deleterious alleles per genome. According to some estimates, you and I each carry about 1 strongly deleterious hidden mutation. When homozygous, these mutations reduce fitness; inbreeding will therefore lead to inbreeding depression as the homozygous mutations become expressed.

    However, inbreeding isn't all bad, and many organisms habitually inbreed. Animals such as fig wasps and certain parasites regularly mate with their siblings, and selfing is common in many of the most aggressive weeds of agriculture. The advantage is presumably ecological, since a single female can then colonize an empty resource or host. There may also be a genetic advantage by preventing recombination between adaptive loci. One assumes deleterious recessives in habitually inbreeding species have mostly been purged by selection.

    In human societies where some families have a lot of wealth, or where a bridal dowry is paid, inbreeding is common. Examples are European royal families, and on the Indian subcontinent. Perhaps here the idea is to prevent the "recombination" of wealth with other families!

    In any case, mild inbreeding, such as mating between first cousins, or uncle-niece isn't so dangerous. Charles Darwin married his first cousin, Emma Wedgewood, and had an astonishing 10 children. Some were sickly or died young, but this was common in the days before penicillin.

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    It's not all a matter of being dangerous or not- It is just disgusting and wrong. Your family (with the exception of your spouse) should be some of the closest people to you and in a nonsexual way

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    Quote Originally Posted by DoesntMatter View Post
    It's not all a matter of being dangerous or not- It is just disgusting and wrong. Your family (with the exception of your spouse) should be some of the closest people to you and in a nonsexual way
    Why is that?
    Don't expect anything.

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    lol I knew you were going to ask that. I don't see it as being natural that a person would have sexual attractions to their immediate family members or members of their extended family. I don't feel you can get that strength of the familial bond if there is incest going on somewhere

    Another reason is this- Let's say the person in question is your sister. How could you possibly find your sister sexually attractive when you've known them since you were a baby (assuming a close age gap) and for all the years before you even knew what sex was? The brother-sister bond should be so strong from this that you never find them sexually attractive

    Anyways, maybe you don't find it disgusting on just a level of preference. I do

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    There is a theory that humans have a kind of mechanism that may avoid attraction when an infant is exposed to siblings up until the age of 6.

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    I wouldn't be surprised if there was

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    Quote Originally Posted by boobaa View Post
    Why is that?
    It's wrong just like it's wrong to **** animals.

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    you only need one (thread).
    baby ya hustle. but me i hustle harder.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Frasbee View Post
    There is a theory that humans have a kind of mechanism that may avoid attraction when an infant is exposed to siblings up until the age of 6.
    Or even older. I've read that mating often has to do w/your potential mates smell. That, somehow, pheromones provide information about how compatible your immune systems will be in your potential offspring.

    I've also read that same argument suggesting its the reason why so many women become disinterested in their spouse/partner after they have had a child by them. They are looking for the next set of genes to make the next best immune offspring they can.

    So, if your family shares your genes & 'ain't got what u need' then it makes sense you will be more attracted to those outside your family genetic pool.

    And the royal families in Urp have inbred haemophilia b/c of this kind of thing. Its a sex-linked disease is this what you meant Fras?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Frasbee View Post
    Animals such as fig wasps and certain parasites regularly mate with their siblings, and selfing is common in many of the most aggressive weeds of agriculture. The advantage is presumably ecological, since a single female can then colonize an empty resource or host. There may also be a genetic advantage by preventing recombination between adaptive loci. One assumes deleterious recessives in habitually inbreeding species have mostly been purged by selection.
    !! Writing genetics textbooks on the side, Fras? This sounds straight out of Mendelian Inheritance of Man. Nice.
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    Quote Originally Posted by IndiReloaded View Post
    !! Writing genetics textbooks on the side, Fras? This sounds straight out of Mendelian Inheritance of Man. Nice.
    More like copying/pasting from a website.

    [url]http://www.ucl.ac.uk/~ucbhdjm/courses/b242/InbrDrift/InbrDrift.html[/url]

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    This cousin topic intrigued me, so I read these:
    [url]http://www.cousincouples.com/info/facts.shtml[/url]
    [url]http://discovermagazine.com/2003/aug/featkiss[/url]
    [url]http://www.planetout.com/health/sexuality/qanda.html?sernum=1035[/url]

    At least anonymousinlove isn't gay and hasn't fallen for his 2nd (also gay) cousin like the guy from the 3rd link did lol

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