She wants to talk

[XPRabbit]

By open mind you mean what? I'm a little oblivious to my own meaning.

And I never expect anything. I expect that something unexpected will happen and so I don't bother expecting anything since it won't be right.

Open minded: basically what i mean is listen to what she has to say and think it over, be willing to accept her reasoning and don't jump to conclusions.

[Cain]

No you missunderstand two things. It was an e-mail not phone call (which probably doesn't matter). And I don't expect anything. I want and see then act upon the situation.

But what do you mean open mind?

Just don't expect her to jump into your arms.

I think the only reason she wants to talk to you on Monday is so she can make sure that she didn't hurt your feelings and to just butter you up. If she butters you up, don't think she's doing it because she really likes you. She's doing it so that you aren't hurt by her turning you down.

[I'm not telling]

Conclusions like what?

[XPRabbit]

basically, if she says anything that your not sure of or don't understand then ask her to clarify instead of making up reasons on your own.

[XPRabbit]

but if you don't mind me saying this, you seem to be really high strung about this. take a deep breath and relax, nothing bad is going to happen and I''m sure you'll do just fine.

[I'm not telling]

I'm not high strung lol, I've knives brandished at me and guns pointed at me. The only thing that truly scares me and making a girl angry. Now THERES a good way to go home in several pieces.

I'm just worried I might say something wrong to make her upset. I don't want her to feel guilty or anything since we were friends in the first place.

[Charlie Boy II]

Well she's going to break up with you. In fact she already did that, she's just going to confirm it in person.

How you respond is up to you. If it was me I wouldn't say much at all. Maybe just hear her out, nod and say "okay" and then walk off. You'll keep some pride that way. Don't tell her how you're feeling or anything like that, you'll just look pathetic.

[Cain]

but if you don't mind me saying this, you seem to be really high strung about this. take a deep breath and relax, nothing bad is going to happen and I''m sure you'll do just fine.

I think he feels there's a chance she's going to change her mind when he talks to her on Monday. I'm hoping he doesn't try to push anything.

[Cain]

I'm not high strung lol, I've knives brandished at me and guns pointed at me. The only thing that truly scares me and making a girl angry. Now THERES a good way to go home in several pieces.

I'm just worried I might say something wrong to make her upset. I don't want her to feel guilty or anything since we were friends in the first place.

Unless you tell her that she led you on or act upset about her turning you down, she's not going to be upset. Just don't be irritated when she turns you down in person and you'll be fine.

[Charlie Boy II]

She's not going to change her mind.

[I'm not telling]

You people really want me to be angry don't you? lol first she wasn't my girlfriend to begin with I only told her thursday that I liked her, don't you people read other posts before responding?

And I don't expect her to change her mind. I know that a year or more from now its possible for that to change but I don't push anything.

[XPRabbit]

wow... the last 4 post before yours, threw me through a loop... anyway you seem like a good guy, and just the fact you don't want to hurt her shows compassion, your heart brought this up and you still concern for her over yourself. if you are what you seem you are then your just fine. the fact that she wants to talk in person shows she is strong as well you shouldn't have much to worry about.

[Cain]

You people really want me to be angry don't you? lol first she wasn't my girlfriend to begin with I only told her thursday that I liked her, don't you people read other posts before responding?

And I don't expect her to change her mind. I know that a year or more from now its possible for that to change but I don't push anything.

The attraction isn't there now, so what makes you think the attraction will be there a year from now? You're expecting too much even thinking that.

[I'm not telling]

The attraction wasn't there a year ago for me either. Its there now. Am I to assume she is any less human than me?

[Cain]

The attraction wasn't there a year ago for me either. Its there now. Am I to assume she is any less human than me?

Okay.

I surrender.

In a year, she'll probably be all over you.

Don't compare attraction between women and men. Emotional attraction is more instantaneous for women, and if she's put you in the friend zone now, you're most like never getting out.

Maybe a woman can come in here and chime in.