I need help!! Getting mixed signals!!!!

[Stolen]

Note to everyone that reads this--- When someone asks you out if don't like them say no. Because saying "ok" and then magically remembering you have to go to a wedding is no way to let them down easy. They will find out from your friends that you don't like them and they get more hurt, upset, insecure, and crushed that you would play around like that. And that's just uber lame.

[Ratfish256]

Ouch, I had something like that happen to me a few months ago. Hurts more than a downright no doesn't it? Don't let it get you down though. Judging by your lack of using numbers for letters and the like (dude speak?) you seem pretty mature for your age. I am sure someone else will come along.

[Stolen]

Thank you...

And a downright "no" wouldn't have hurt at all. It really would not have. But he had to string me along- and that's what hurt. It took me all of one night to get over it-- that could have been avoided if he just said no.

And no one will come along anytime soon. I don't meet a lot of new people. Besides, I know what I want in a person and I don't make exceptions. Looks don't matter to me at all (if only you could see what I've dated)... But personality matters to me a lot and I just don't find people that I like very often. And as you can see, when I do like someone, I like them a lot, and it NEVER works out how I'd like it to.

And the way people act make me feel really insecure... And it would not have been this way if he was honest. It drives me insane! I mean, I can't even explain how much more this makes me hate my body. I can't help but thinking that if I was skinny, I'd have a date tomorrow night.

Boys confuse me.
Maybe I'll be a nun or something.

[Ratfish256]

To me, there is nothing uglier than being too skinny. I know quite a few people that I would love to jam a hamburger down their throats. They remind me of death.

[Stolen]

I don't want to be too skinny but I need to lose at least 30 pounds. Then, I'll be okay... I wouldn't be skinny but I wouldn't be fat anymore either. And then I would'nt be free tonight.

[manderbug]

The same thing is happening to me right now too, and it's driving me batty! (Sometimes affectionate, other times distant.) I know how you feel...it's difficult to pursue someone who sometimes gives you the cold shoulder. Especially when you like them...you want to not smother them, but you don't want to seem cold yourself.

It's a fine line. I don't know what to do either. I placed the ball in his court and now I am waiting for him to make the next move.

[Stolen]

I wish for you the best of luck... but my situation has turned sour. He get all figity when talking about me... seeing me seems to make him feel guilty.... I mean, It makes me unconfortable... I don't know what to do to make this friendship work... ya know what.. I don't care. It's up to him... if he doesn't want to be my friend.. to hell with him!

[sfalexi]

I don't want to be too skinny but I need to lose at least 30 pounds. Then, I'll be okay... I wouldn't be skinny but I wouldn't be fat anymore either.

Allright. I'd just like to be the first to say that 30 pounds is not even close to the difference between "skinny" and "fat". So 30 pounds is NOTHING to worry about. Especially if you're a guy because I've talked to many girls and pointed out various guys and asked them if they were "too heavy" or "too skinny" for them (I most seriously have done this. I just wanted to prove to myself that girls don't really take a guy's weight into account). And they all have had different answers. Guys I thought were in good shape they'd say were too skinny and that they needed extra weight. Guys I thought were too 'fat' they had no problem with. Guys that I thought were too skinny they said didn't bother them either.

To sum it up, you can weight pretty much whatever you want. And if the difference between you and your 'ideal' you is only THIRTY POUNDS?>!!?>>? then it's NOTHING to beat yourself up about.

Alexi

[BillyGalbreath]

I dont go by punds or anything - I go by looks -- I am 6'2" at 185lbs -- sounds perfectly normal right ? WRONG! I have a 'beer belly'... so when I take my shirt off all the women basically run the other way... And alot of guys I know that are shorter than me and about 220-240lbs attract all the women and they arent really buff - they just dont have the damn 'beer belly' that I have...

So yeah - weight means nothing - looks mean everything to a woman. All guys must know this.

[sfalexi]

Yup. Weight is just a number. According to the National Center for Chronic Disease Prevention and Health Promotion which is some government regulated site, I'm considered the upper level of "overweight" closing in on "obese". But that's just a bunch of numbers.

Go by your view in the mirror.

Alexi