Originally Posted by
PeaceNLove08
I have never asked him not to go to anything with his friends or got angry with him for going. I just feel like I get the last consideration. I am where he comes if there is nothing else going on. I moved here because he asked me to. He is my best friend...well my only friend here. I want him to have a life but lots of things we could do together. I am an avid football fan, love fishing and golfing...that's what he said in the beginning he liked so much about me. So what exactly do you think I've done that says I am needy. I really am trying to understand this because I can't stand needy guys. I don't smother him (I only see him 2 times a week) or question him, I just try to ask for what I want and need and yes I do get upset when I get pushed aside after we have made plans...but I don't know a woman alive who wouldn't.
It is very hard to move somewhere you've never lived for someone else. If he is your only friend, maybe part of the problem comes from the fact that you are somewhat isolated socially save for him. If you had more going on socially, perhaps you wouldn't feel so "left out." I'd try to make some new friends if I were you.
His emotional barrier may be an incompatibility problem. He may not be as emotionally expressive as you would like (and it's perfectly ok for you to want it), but it might not be a dealbreaker thing. Kind of like when one person is messy and the other person is neat. How badly this matters to you is really for you to decide.
If you want to stay with him though, you'll have to work around this somehow and make compromises with him, much like the messy and the neat person. Also weigh the pros and cons. If he's emotionally inexpressive and that is one flaw stacked up against many many good points, then focus on his good points and learn to love him for who he is. He can't be forced into being what he's not.
“Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist”--George Carlin