Planning to get married in the most dumbest way....please help

[lesa]

Russians are hoooooooooot.

I've worked with a few. That's a generalization. However, I agree that a few are, especially the voice.

[mr_xxxplosive]

Of course she is not in love with me neither am I with her but I do know she likes me and I do too. I'm not infatuated with her it's just we are having such nice times I don't want it to end so fast. I already have a very tough life, I have to take medications for the rest of my life for a few illnesses I have, everything I had was taken away from me. I was accepted into great colleges when I finished high school but couldn't go when I was afflicted with these bad illnesses and now I'm doing squat and now another nice thing is about to leave me so that's why I wanted her to marry me so this can at least last for a while. So I could at least have something going for some time.

And truth is I wouldn't care much if she eventually does want to divorce me when she is a citizen maybe she will maybe she won't but in the mean time I just wanted to have these good times continue with her and I don't see it ending anytime soon.

[vashti]

I don't really know how we can take seriously someone who tells us in the title of his thread he is about to do the "most dumbest" thing. If you know it is dumb, why do you need strangers to talk you out of it?

[Junket]

Apparently you haven't seen some of the babushkas out there.

Nope, just Philly russians.

Which are hooooooooooooot.

[doppelgaenger]

Apparently you haven't seen some of the babushkas out there.

Hahaha! Бабушка!

Yeah, she sounds like one of those Russian mail order brides.

[lesa]

Of course she is not in love with me neither am I with her but I do know she likes me and I do too. I'm not infatuated with her it's just we are having such nice times I don't want it to end so fast. I already have a very tough life, I have to take medications for the rest of my life for a few illnesses I have, everything I had was taken away from me. I was accepted into great colleges when I finished high school but couldn't go when I was afflicted with these bad illnesses and now I'm doing squat and now another nice thing is about to leave me so that's why I wanted her to marry me so this can at least last for a while. So I could at least have something going for some time.

And truth is I wouldn't care much if she eventually does want to divorce me when she is a citizen maybe she will maybe she won't but in the mean time I just wanted to have these good times continue with her and I don't see it ending anytime soon.

Again may I say:

If you are wise you will not do it. If you are not then, don't let us stop you. You seem to have decided before posting here.

[beans28]

PUHLLLease don't marry this girl. You are making a huge mistake. You don't even love the girl. Move on -

[doppelgaenger]

Doesn't anyone know all the legal shit you have to go through to get married?

[starbuck]

Sounds like she's just using you, and will probably leave you as soon as you tie the knot. You say you don't care, but I think deep down you do.

You know this is a bad idea.

[Mish]

I was accepted into great colleges when I finished high school but couldn't go when I was afflicted with these bad illnesses and now I'm doing squat and now another nice thing is about to leave me so that's why I wanted her to marry me so this can at least last for a while. So I could at least have something going for some time.

It sounds like you are acting out of fear, are you sure you want to make a commitment as serious as marriage to some one who is not in love with you out of fear? You are saying you've had a hard life, do you seriously want to make it even harder? Are you some kind of a glutton for punishment?

[bluesummer]

You say you don't care if she divorces you NOW....but it will be a different story when she actually WANTS to.

Trust me.

[missminxy]

You may think you love her or whatever and this is going to help. But one dont settle cause your afraid shes the last girl that will be interested in you because your wrong. Let her go back to russia and maintain a friendship if its right and meant to be. It will work, and wont be rushed for either of you.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

I remember this man straight up told me when I was like 15 to marry him so he can get a green card.