Help me decipher such a message.

[UKboy]

Ladies,I do want to be open to more inputs
Highly appreciated

[richeanne]

well i think she just wants u hangin around at the moment, literally. Maybe she's not ready to talk and adds u as an "assurance" that she will talk soon. So i guess u just have to chill and get goin until she comes alive. Or better yet, if you're irritated by the no-talkin-just-adding thing, just delete her in you're account.

[UKboy]

well i think she just wants u hangin around at the moment, literally. Maybe she's not ready to talk and adds u as an "assurance" that she will talk soon. So i guess u just have to chill and get goin until she comes alive. Or better yet, if you're irritated by the no-talkin-just-adding thing, just delete her in you're account.

We're from the same school.
Yesterdat,While going up the bus,queeing up,She turned behind and looked at me.We take the same bus.
I wouldn't have know she was in the queue too if she hadn't turned back to look.
Does it says anything or should i just pass it off as a 'casual'?

[richeanne]

look, it will say a damn thing if she stood up and took the seat beside u and talked. But she just "looked". she might just be surprised to see u, so she freakn looked. If there's somethin more to that, she wouldn'tve let the chance passed.

[kikibrown22]

Everyone has pretty much said it already. This girl took the first step by adding you, it's your turn to make a move and talk to her. Maybe she thinks that you don't want to talk to her since you haven't messaged her, but in all likelihood, she probably doesn't even realize there's a problem. Either way you need to take action and stop letting it build up inside you. The longer you wait for her to come around, the more frustrated you'll become and eventually you'll just end up sabotaging your own relationship with her because of feelings of resentment that you've created.

For the record, I almost never initiate conversations with my friends. I understand that it can be perceived as being rude, but they've learned to accept that it's not that I don't want to talk to them, it's just that I'm always doing a million other things. So just talk to her already and put your mind at rest.

[UKboy]

Everyone has pretty much said it already. This girl took the first step by adding you, it's your turn to make a move and talk to her. Maybe she thinks that you don't want to talk to her since you haven't messaged her, but in all likelihood, she probably doesn't even realize there's a problem. Either way you need to take action and stop letting it build up inside you. The longer you wait for her to come around, the more frustrated you'll become and eventually you'll just end up sabotaging your own relationship with her because of feelings of resentment that you've created.

For the record, I almost never initiate conversations with my friends. I understand that it can be perceived as being rude, but they've learned to accept that it's not that I don't want to talk to them, it's just that I'm always doing a million other things. So just talk to her already and put your mind at rest.

I'm curious...how does it play a role?It's not as though i didn't have her email,she merely add me on her new email one week after we argued.
What if i decide to wait another 2-3 months before talking to her and at the mean time either put her on block or appearing offline?
I feel that i'm not prepared to talk to her soon.
Furthermore,it affects me seeing her and her guy together.I keep wondering "what ifs"
I find it really really hard to swallow the fact that she gave me such shytty treatment considering we were friends before her guy came into the picture.It's totally unfair that the 'bad' guy who is the guy supposely became me.
I can understand if she doesn't talk to me right from the start but the thing is,she used to talk to me by her own and nudging me whenever i come online until she got together with that guy.

Perhaps i do need sometime to cool down too?

[UKboy]

I had a hard time sleeping last night.So many thoughts that kept recurring in my mind which eventually resurface the resentments once again.
It seems i'm in a position where i can'tmove my chess piece.Either move puts me at a loss,an equal loss.So cutting my loss is pretty much out.

Reflecting,I know i did nothing wrong.She knew even before this argument that i was angry at her but she kept giving excuses and justifications for her actions.Almost as though,she couldn't be bothered about the friendship in the real sense.The times when she would say to hang out again but never did contact me nor initiate to talk to me whenever we were on IM.
I have so many question left unaswered.This is almost the same time last year we became friends.Really,none would have thought something would happened over the course of a few months after being friends.
Well,whinning nor complaining isn't the viable option but if i might lend a space,i do feel like venting.I've seen her got together with 2 guys and repeatedl stood by her,tolerating.
Everything seem so unfair.
I close my eyes,i see them holding hands at the CD store that i saw them and the picture they took

I mean seeing her with her with the 1st guy was bad enough but they lasted only a month.After the break up,she was really nice to me but many would have agreed with me to give her time and space which i did and believe it's the appropiate thing to do.
God knows why did someone came out of the blue and hook her up on facebook in the midst of her 'cooling down'
I know love should be unconditional but i got my temper too,like anyone.Every thing she did to hurt me.
Being a doormate or being taken for granted isn't what i had hoped for.
There seem so much justified resentment lying beneath me.
Have I taken a backseat after she got a new bf?
I'm at a point whereby if i can't get over the resentment and forgive her,i must be prepare to lose her as a friend.
Yet if i decide to continue being her friend,i have to bear with the resentment.
Eitherway serve to bring angry pain.

[kikibrown22]

She sounds pretty inconsiderate to me. A lot of girls ditch their friends as soon as a guy comes into the picture, and then expect their friends to be around to comfort them when things don't work out. She will learn. Until then the best thing really is just to let it go. Realize that you can do better and deserve better than this. I know it's kind of hard to see right now, but there are hundreds of girls out there who would treat you better than this girl has. Take comfort in being the bigger person here and at least try to let it go. You know what the right course of action is.

[UKboy]

She sounds pretty inconsiderate to me. A lot of girls ditch their friends as soon as a guy comes into the picture, and then expect their friends to be around to comfort them when things don't work out. She will learn. Until then the best thing really is just to let it go. Realize that you can do better and deserve better than this. I know it's kind of hard to see right now, but there are hundreds of girls out there who would treat you better than this girl has. Take comfort in being the bigger person here and at least try to let it go. You know what the right course of action is.

I just chanced upon
[url]http://www.loveforum.net/broken-hearts-forum/27088-broken-up-still-want-pursue.html#post416468[/url]

and reading lite's 13th post,it made alot of sense of instilled a whole level of magnanimous within me.
I realise what he relate were very similar to mine,except that she and I weren't couples but still,it's a human relationship afterall that commands respect and consideration.

To say,i have to hand it over to lite for being able to hold his ground still.Reading on,it's pretty true when he said that even though things might be smooth or better in the future,the sourness and resentment within me or most other person would linger but again,he has a acknowledable gf who takes responsiblity for what she did.

At this point,i'm pondering whether i should holding my ground too.She ain't a bad person on the whole and i agree with you that she has much to learn in terms of charecter development.
The main reason why i don't want to throw this friendship aside is because i don't want to go through the loss of regret years down the road,10 years,20years and or 50 years down.
I regretted not being able to tell my mum i love her when she passed on when i was 10 yo.Heck,i didn't even got to reach the hospital in time.

One thing i realise is there are better girls out there who will and have give me much attention.But i realise the fact that there will always be a better girl around the corner and it never ends.
My most likely course of action would be to be even more patient and understanding towards her.I don't think they'll last.And if they do break,i'll present to her the choice if we should continue being friend since her mind would be much clearer by then.No distractions.
Afterall,no man would like to be given an answer that's been wavered by distractions.

Would it be good if i drop her a "how's life" say in a few more weeks time.How should I stay as friend yet not fall into the friend's zone?I said she has a bf so,how should i cope with the emotions that will spun whenever i see her and the bf together?Any advises?

[Hentrinity]

Would it be good if i drop her a "how's life" say in a few more weeks time.How should I stay as friend yet not fall into the friend's zone?I said she has a bf so,how should i cope with the emotions that will spun whenever i see her and the bf together?Any advises?

Well, I dun fink its possible to not be in the friend zone and still be a friend. Try to move on, and 4get the fact that she has a BF. There are many other girls out there that will treat you better.
Try starting a conversation, and end it with hope we can still be friends or sumfin like tht.

[UKboy]

I took a long bus ride out the somewhere before returning home to entertain a whole bunch of relatives.Knowing,i was in a bad mood,long bus rides are always the best.
And i know where the source of anger stem from.
It stems from the fact that I have always been trying to bring back the friendship,putting down my pride when i am right just to apologize.I'm pretty sure she realise that and perhaps somehow,she knows this friendship means alot to me and her thoughts run along the line "he'll do the same again as always so i'll just sit on my hands"
It hurts to know she apologize to her bf upteen times because she had a minor mood swing with him and would never apologize to me nor admit her mistakes.
And...not ignoring the fact that i could have been her first bf actually.I never understand why wrong events collide with me whenever i decide to know more of a girl.
It's a lose lose situation for me.
It just feel like being considerate and nice doesn't pay.
How should i handle anger and such thoughts?

Also,few days back,a female friend wanted me to take a photo with her and i obligned out of friendliness.The photo turns out rather intimate with her face stuck to mine.I'm thinking of posting on my online journal and because it's personal,it's me to post picture without saying "me and my friend".One would easily think we're couple if i post that pic.
And she has my link to the journal too.Should i post it?

[vaneigem]

Also,few days back,a female friend wanted me to take a photo with her and i obligned out of friendliness.The photo turns out rather intimate with her face stuck to mine.I'm thinking of posting on my online journal and because it's personal,it's me to post picture without saying "me and my friend".One would easily think we're couple if i post that pic.
And she has my link to the journal too.Should i post it?

Dude, post the pic by all means but don't deliberately neglect to mention that she's just a friend, that's manipulative asshole behaviour.

[UKboy]

Dude, post the pic by all means but don't deliberately neglect to mention that she's just a friend, that's manipulative asshole behaviour.

I don't get what you mean.
What i was getting about is that,it's my personal dairy and only 3 people has acess to it including her.
ANd going by the way i handle my personal stuff,like dairy,i usually just post or stick pictures without writting words because when i turn to that page,in the back of my mind,i know how this picture came about.
Unless people ask,they will usually speculate.
That aside,I would tell her the girl in the picture with me is a friend if she was well and single like before and IF SHE ASK.But i don't feel the need to anymore since she's attached and i'm not accountable to her.
No point to tell her such things anymore.

[UKboy]

I just received a text from her today after my afternoon nap.So it's been 3 weeks of me not contating her and coming online watsoever.
It's our school holidays just and she asked how am I,how was chinese new year and is i wanted to hang out next week.

Of course,i should be really happy right?Don't get me wrong,she still my friend,at least to me.However,right now,i'm actually in an indifferent state.Have been staying home for the past weeks mostly,corping myself in the room,sleeping and watching videos.
I can't be sure if i'm in depression or just indifferent to almost everything already.
Should i agree to meet up with her?The problem lies not with meeting her itself but how i'll behave.Knowing me,i probaly pass through the motion of meeting her like a lifeless slob.
V'day is coming.It's actually my b'day too.I don't want to overestimate myself by thinking i gotton over her.

Do i or do i not meet her up...?