Originally Posted by
Lowfront
Hey guys thanks for the help.
So now, I have sort of just been acting like a dick cause I'm pissed off. She's pissed at me of course.
She wants me to take her home, cause she thinks I'm being selfish. I'ts just so hard to relax and try to take it easy when I'm just way over the line.
I should just act like a normal human being and have fun with her today but I can't feel all lovely and normal right now.
I have been very anxious and stressed really bad all week and its showing.
She says that I'm not helping anything by acting like this
and "This isn't the guy I know"
So now once again I don't know what to do.....
Hmm... she has a lot of gall to act as though you are the cause of all her problems... when she puts you through hell because she clung to you before sorting out her feelings for the last guy - even had the audacity to have him brought into YOUR home.
She is being selfish and not considerate of your heart or your needs. You are stressed out for two reasons:
1.) she selfishly wants to love the last guy and have you too - have her cake and eat it too - which is just cruel to you...
2.) you won't make her selfishness known to her - instead you would rather be passive aggressive to her and coddle her as she confesses her love for ANOTHER man.
It's up to you to make a decision.. not hers. She's made her decision, and that's to love this other guy and have you make her feel special too...
You have a choice to make...
you can either be her 'friends with benefits' emotional support while she dwells on the love she had with this other guy OR
you can tell her to choose between a man that doesn't love her or choose to be with you OR
you can decide you've had enough drama and would be better off looking for another woman who would put you FIRST in her heart.
Most of the stress in life comes from failing to make a decision or do something we know we need to do.
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen