My girlfriend has feelings for another guy

[Illusional]

haha.. well do you honestly want me to me tell you that everything is going to be better?? you're gf is leaving you for another man right in front of your eyes. if you're not willing to do anything about it then how can i help?

raverboy

[misombra]

i think you guys are wrong. i think she loves him and wants to make it better and get married and have a thousand children.

[Illusional]

whoa.. a thousand?? that's a lot of pushing..

raverboy

[misombra]

yeah but she's young. if you get started early you could do it.

[Illusional]

isn't 20 a bit late to start on her 1000 babies??

raverboy

[misombra]

i don't know why are you asking me she's the one that wants them!

[Illusional]

puff the magic dragon....

raverboy

[lastwish]

This girl has already fell for another guy. She says she is still in love with you but its not true. She just has left over attachment. People have attachement to exes all the time but it doesn't mean they are still in love or think they want to be back in the relationship. You should stop letting her treat you like a doormat. Break up with her if you haven't already and don't try to be "friends".

[misdirectionx]

Wow... I wouldn't even let him come into my house AT ALL! I would say, "**** off... and find your own women.

Often at times men would disregard females' relationship status and would do anything to win their heart. You just need aggressiveness and be confident.

About the age factor, I don't think that doesn't make any difference, really. It's about LOVE, that's all it counts.

I think she's just being wild.. which can lead to undesirable results. Yes, you have every right to be paranoid. But again, BE AGGRESSIVE!

[TipsGoda]

i think maybe the reason shes into someone else also is because she didnt get much from you...maybe its attention,love,...

i say..step up your game and learn how to make the relationship hot again..

if shes still like that and cant decide,ditch her..shes playin around

[Cbrider]

I say just leave her, tell her that you are not going to seat backseat in your relationship. I had a gf do something similar to me, I went with it for as long as I could but eventually I was losing sleep over it and it was more than I felt I should have on my shoulders so i broke it off. I will be no ones doormat, its not fair and is not healthy in a relationship.

Surprise surprise, shes ended up with a new guy who is spineless and a doormat to her. She got what she wanted and thats all that mattered to her. Just break it off, you deserve better.

[lastwish]

i think maybe the reason shes into someone else also is because she didnt get much from you...maybe its attention,love,...

i say..step up your game and learn how to make the relationship hot again..

if shes still like that and cant decide,ditch her..shes playin around

That would work if it was earlier...when there are the first signs of disinterest. But now, her heart seems to be with that guy now. If you try "harder" with her...she'll lose respect for you. And being in a relationship with someone who doesn't respect you will be hell.

[Cain]

The relationship is over.

She was straying even before she went back to her home country. How do you plan to keep her wanting you now that you're both in separate countries?

[carl1222]

The relationship is over.

She was straying even before she went back to her home country. How do you plan to keep her wanting you now that you're both in separate countries?

Yeah, Cain ... by the way, does beating a dead horse make it more tender?

Carl.

[Mish]

My girlfriend says that she has feelings for this other guy and she doesnt know what to do with them since she doesn't want to leave me cuz she has feelings for me too.

So, this is the time where you say you're sorry, but you will have to leave HER, at least until she sorts out her feelings.

That's the only way out of this situation. She's making you into a third wheel and she is slow-dumping you for someone else. Take the initiative and let her go on your own terms before she feeds you more poison.