Virginal girls are overrated

[Aeradalia]

This is the first relationship she's ever had, I'm not sure if she thinks that a relationship is just sex or predominantly about sex. I also really really like your idea about showing her that these are things that I want to do.

Might be best to have a conversation about how quite a few women feel as though all men really want is sex... how unfulfilling such relationships can be... and try to go from a positive angle by mentioning how you genuinely would like to share more with her than merely sex. Not only would you want to do this for her... but also because you really like her as a person... then go from there about all her other good attributes... Basically help her to realize that sexual gratification isn't solely required to keep you --- hint that you need more than sex, but that's a good thing.

I can't explain how exactly you should discuss this with her.. but I do recommend a bit of finesse and tactfulness.

[Illusional]

I Do tell her what she is doing wrong, but I don't think she even knows where to begin... I do ask her to not use teeth during blowjobs, the handjobs hurt because she just grabs and actually pulls the whole thing rather painfully. She is a bit of a masochist and seems to think that I enjoy pain too (I don't, and I still feel the urge to apologize every time I give her any pain, though I've stopped doing so at her request.)

c'mon now. it's like like you woke up one day and POOF>>> you were a pussy eating god.. take time and deal with this like any man would. shit, i had to go as far as to stop eating out my ex because she wouldn't suck my dick. and her problem was that she didn't know how to and didn't want to say anything. build a strong bond with her and trust me, she will get you off if you're willing to put the time and effort into it.

raverboy

[Illusional]

i smell troll.

what does a troll smell like exactly?

raverboy

[Shpadoinkle]

We have tried toys. A leather kitty nine tails, bondage, beads, lube, different holes (she suggested. To be honest, I have yet to really notice much of a difference in sensation.) The thing is that I've found that these those are all best used for her benefit rather than mine.

Aeradalia, that's excellent advice, I'll try it out.

We've got a fairly good bond- we stay up late chatting almost every night. (it's 4-ish where I am now and we just finished talking). I was trying to point out there that I'm learning too, that I'm barely competent. I don't quite see where you're going with this, since I really don't want her to initiate as much sex as she does, and certainly not the rather painful foreplay. I'm fairly sure it's her lack of (s)experience, or (hopefully not) talent, rather than an unwillingness to learn or do sexual things with me).

I'm not a god of any sort with regard to cunnilingus or sex in general. I'm not sure how good or bad I am, and I try not to think about that sort of thing in general. With that sentence about pain, though, I was trying to point out that I'm still learning quite a lot about sex, and that I am not some sort of omniscient sex god.

[Only-virgins]

I do not have the whole sexual attraction to her

Why are you having sex with someone you aren't attracted to? That is just weird. Than again you are weird. For me shitty sex and I am gone. In-fact, sex trumps anything else in a relationship. If I don't want sex with a girl, I probably don't want anything else from her either. I wouldn't want some slut but I would slap a bitch who would bite me or pull down to hard.

[diasflacleo]

Well my friend I gotta tell you... if she is having sex this means she has the slightest notion (at least ) that private parts are really sensible... you will have to tell her to go slowly on that blowjob thing...try having sex in a slower pace just to give her a pratical example...
if this does not work...unfortunately you gotta make yourself clear telling her all.

[Shpadoinkle]

Why are you having sex with someone you aren't attracted to? That is just weird. Than again you are weird. For me shitty sex and I am gone. In-fact, sex trumps anything else in a relationship. If I don't want sex with a girl, I probably don't want anything else from her either. I wouldn't want some slut but I would slap a bitch who would bite me or pull down to hard.

I'm not in the relationship for the sex.

Hm. Sounds good. I followed Aeradalia's advice.

[Gigabitch]

Oh, don't mind O_V. He's just pissed that you've had at least three virgins and he's had none. And DM is a virgin, himself, and I think he'd be happy to have sex with your girlfriend if she wants too much from you. You should ask her. DM is cute.

I'm a little taken aback by all of the toys and exploratory hole-probing, etc. I wonder if she's got some wires crossed in her head about sex. Maybe she thinks that it's how you bond someone to you and she's trying to be a freak because she thinks that secretly what all guys want.

It sounds like she's learned everything she knows about sex from watching porn.

[Aeradalia]

It sounds like she's learned everything she knows about sex from watching porn.

Who hasn't?

But seriously... just take it slow with her... let her know what is acceptable and what isn't in a very patient way.

It takes a little while for the 'newness' of sex to wear off.

[Shpadoinkle]

Actually, to my knowledge she really led a pretty sheltered life. I might have it figured wrong, but... yeah.

That's what I've determined to do- reduce the amount of sex by saying that a lot of women complain that their relationships are nothing but sex, and then trying to point at all the other things we do. We had a nice long discussion, and it came out that what she enjoys the best in our relationship isn't the sex, it's the physical company, be it running around or in bed. I'm trying to teach her. I am not sure why she has all the kinks that she does, in many cases I have had to tell her about them (explain them) and then ask her if she wants to try them. Do you all know one another? I'm new to this site.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

We all know each other. We have constant LF Orgies. Matter of fact, there is one scheduled for 8 o'clock tonight.

[Aeradalia]

We all know each other. We have constant LF Orgies. Matter of fact, there is one scheduled for 8 o'clock tonight.

Makes a note... who do I get tonight?

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

You can have me if you'd like

[Shpadoinkle]

No thanks, I think Texas is a ways out from where I am... plus I'm half-buried in studies. Was just wondering- I seem to stumble onto forums where everyone already knows one another quite often, and was wondering if this was again the case.

[Junket]

No thanks, I think Texas is a ways out from where I am... plus I'm half-buried in studies. Was just wondering- I seem to stumble onto forums where everyone already knows one another quite often, and was wondering if this was again the case.

Many of us are long time regulars that are familiar with each other.

You'll find a base of regulars wherever you go.