My boyfriend has a problem with masturbation?

[bexico5]

i am definitely going to talk about it with him.

i know it sounds stupid... but it really makes me feel inadequate... i mean the whole boobs thing, if i chose to do it then it would be fine but i dont wanna be told what to do. hell i may even have done it if he hadnt said.

i know he loves me, but i just dont understand why he feels he needs to do whole masturbation thing like all the time.

we see each other basically every single day and we have sex quite a lot of those days. the problem is that if we dont one day, we both want to.

the difference is that i just get over it, he keeps saying "use your own fingers and just masturbate" but i dont like it, its not the same if im not with him. that's like porn. i admit i have watched it before and he knows i have, but i have never masturbated watching it or anything, because its not the same as being with him.

on the other hand, if we dont have sex, he will masturbate that night and it does make me feel like im not good enough for him because he made a conscious effort to turn down sex.

hmm maybe im reading too much into the situation.

but i dont mind it when we watch porn videos together because he knows the kind of girls i like.. basically the same ones as him.

but i would never want to look like them, because, lets face it, they're hot, but i doubt they have much else going for them.

thanks everyone for your help, i guess its an issue i just have to keep working at.

i have told him that i think he has problems, but he is strange because he believes that not masturbating is abnormal :S

the problem is that i cant just leave him because i love him so much and it would break my heart.

[Cain]

Masturbating isn't the problem. The problem is that he's neglecting sex with you to do it. The problem is that it is starting to consume him.

Don't be blind.

[Gigabitch]

i have told him that i think he has problems, but he is strange because he believes that not masturbating is abnormal :S

Masturbating IS normal. Compulsively wanking all the time isn't, but it sounds like the thrice-daily thing was before you got together and now it's just sometimes.

[bexico5]

Masturbating IS normal. Compulsively wanking all the time isn't, but it sounds like the thrice-daily thing was before you got together and now it's just sometimes.

exactly. its only if he cums once when we have sex, or when we dont have sex when he masturbates now

i just dont understand why if he feels horny, he doesnt tell me, instead of waiting for me to go and then doing it

[bexico5]

ok so you think i should rape him then?

[Cain]

exactly. its only if he cums once when we have sex, or when we dont have sex when he masturbates now

i just dont understand why if he feels horny, he doesnt tell me, instead of waiting for me to go and then doing it

Your last comment is EXACTLY why I'm telling you this is a problem. Do you know how many women have come on here complaining that their man has stopped having sex with them and chosen porn and masturbation instead? You aren't there yet but if this continues you may very well head right in that direction.

[bexico5]

i know that now.

he is gonna get a talking to

he even said that if i do something then it takes him less time to cum and he prefers it....

so should i offer or what? :S

[Cain]

What do you mean if you do something? Why would he want to get off faster?

[bexico5]

blowjob, handjob, anything.

and faster is still quite a long time lol

because it normally takes him a longgg time.

he says it's much more exciting for him if i do it.. so should i be the one to offer? or should i wait for him to come to me? because im not sure if hes gonna do that

[Cain]

He probably won't come to you. Instead, he'll sit his ass in front of his computer and just jerk off.

Sex with you isn't a priority.

[supernova415]

hey there, no i am not gay and no i am not a loser.

I personally hate when guys talk about masturbating even if its all guys there. Its a stupid thing to talk about if ever a guy should have his 1 thing to just keep to himself its when him and his hand become pathetic together. Listen hes a loser if all he can talk about is masturbating and truthfully if he does it mroe then once or even twice a day, the kid is boring has no friends and really does nothing but sit at his computer. masturbating should be kept to yourself...it just isnt something you talk about...why are you gonna talk about the time where you became pathetic for a moment?--its like watching a girl sit on the toilet they just looks so awkward. God wtf is wrong with him what a weird thing to talk about