What's the holier than thou undercurrent of some women?

[Lipp]

If I'm pissed off about something I simply act as though I dont give a **** about the person, and remain "cold". Sure as hell beats getting physical.

[vashti]

I don't understand why anyone would tolerate physical abuse, be they male or female, nor do I understand people being physically abusive. For me, it would be soul-killing.

[misombra]

i know several people who stick around in an abusive relationship. in all cases the "victim" is just as patronizing as the "attacker" and they both play into their own bullshit.

these are also the people who are having the most kids that have to watch it and deal with it.

people stick around with it as if they like it.

[starbuck]

Throwing pottery is no way to behave, man or woman. It reminds of a child having a tantrum.

The people who do this sort of thing have not emotionally matured IMO.

[Yggdrasil]

I simply walk away. In a marriage or b/f - g/f - fiancees relation it takes 2 people to fight, be that physical, emotional or verbal.

Remove 1 person from the equation (walk away) and who's left to fight with but yourself?

This is years ago (like 24 years ago):

I used to 'stand my ground' like a 'real' man, telling my wife off and trying to 'correct' her by telling her she was 'wrong'.

One day she came to me and told me that she felt intimidated when I did so. So we sat down and talked about it. I realized during that conversation that I basicaly was being controlling by 'standing my ground'. So her and I made an agreement between the two of us, that if one would feel frustrated, the other would not add fuel to the fire but go for a walk till things calmed down.

Eventhough hard at first (it took about 5 or 6 months to change the habbit), persistance from both of us in following through with this, has been one of the contributing factors for still being together.

I learned one thing from this: it takes a man to stand his ground, it takes a greater man to walk away and prevent escallation. And behind every great man, stands an ever greater woman, and vice versa.

That, I believe, is love.

[doppelgaenger]

You know what's funny? There are a bunch of guys out there who'd take a swing at their girlfriend/wife/fiancee, but if a guy like me gets in their face, they don't do a damn thing. There's a word for that; coward. Yellow.

No relationship should ever have physical violence. It is completely unnecessary, and that's common sense. Any moron who'd hit the person he or she loves is utterly disrespectful, and an arrogant jackass at best.

[Charlie Boy II]

so making your girlfriend scared made you feel like a winner, eh doc?

You sound pathetic mate.

Edit: I had a girlfriend throw a high-heel shoe at me once. She really meant it to.

[vashti]

If a girl tries to psych screw me... I give it back to her tenfold.

If she gets verbally abusive... I shame her in public and make her look like an arse. Then I psych screw her afterwards.

Oh, I "worshipped" lil Miss Fruitbowl.. indeed....I launched immediately into the psych screw portion of the program... you know, standard garden variety fare... a peppering of "Oh, you're above it now, Princess?"... want another swat?" etc etc (paraphrased)

Then she realized she screwed with a mother of all screwers, and took on the demure persona of a 1950's homemaker...

"sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry, don't hurt me...HELP! HELP! HELP!"

These portions of your posts sent shivers up my spine. I have to admit: you sound scary to me.

Don't get me wrong - she may very well provoke these responses out of you, but I wonder what happened that made her throw the fruitbowl in the first place?

[IndiReloaded]

so making your girlfriend scared made you feel like a winner, eh doc?

You sound pathetic mate.

Edit: I had a girlfriend throw a high-heel shoe at me once. She really meant it to.

Did you catch it? Like George Bush?

[Rollerderby]

I once dated a guy. Big surprise, I know, but that's not the end of the story.

His "best friend" was the most chauvinistic guy I had ever met. Ever. He talked about every woman he saw as an object of posession. If she was hot, he talked down to her (clearly out of insecurity with himself) and when one girl came back at him for him calling her anorexic, he threw her to the ground.

His staindpoint was, "if a bitch is going to act like a man, I'm going to treat her like a man." (he also told the guy I was with to "control his woman", me, when i was trying to help give the driver directions.) The guy I was seeing drunkenly agreed that if a bitch acted like a man, she should be treated as such. I sat in that car, fuming, and said best friend took notice, and tried to shut his friend up from his drunken rants knowing I was mad. It was so ironic, I could have spit in his eye.

I did not see that guy anymore. He was gentle, but his friend was a horrible person, and I knew he would not choose me over him so I left. He also did not defend me in this whole "woman" comment.

Basically, what I'm saying is, if you need to hit a woman, your mother and father did not do a great job raising you. Yes she is wrong, but you don't have to stoop levels to get even.

[Petit Papillon]

As I said... Breakfsat,lunch and dinner
This song is great for this thread ,but unfortunately only german-speaking member will understand it.Maybe lovesjoyam tries to translate it for You guys, she likes that, but anyway clip is funny.

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fnSyodM-vAQ&feature=PlayList&p=FB443FFF8E6800BA&playnext=1 &playnext_from=PL&index=5"]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fnSyodM-vAQ&feature=PlayList&p=FB443FFF8E6800BA&playnext=1 &playnext_from=PL&index=5[/ame]

[Yggdrasil]

Or you could watch the version with English subtitles:

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zH4svLfhAW0"]Die Ärzte - Manchmal haben Frauen (subtitles)[/ame]

[Petit Papillon]

Or you could watch the version with English subtitles:

[url="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zH4svLfhAW0"]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zH4svLfhAW0[/url]

Yeah I could post that but I simply didn't feel like looking for it after 4 hours of sleeping,besides I had no time,I needed to go to a dentist But if I wouldn't post it at all,I would simply forget it,and I didn't want You to miss that song

[doppelgaenger]

These portions of your posts sent shivers up my spine. I have to admit: you sound scary to me.

He's not scary, just needs to be put in his place.

[Petit Papillon]

He's not scary, just needs to be put in his place.

Immer ja wirklich immer, haben Manner wie du (Doc ) was auf die Fresse verdient