Me and my man are going through something like this except I am the one with the issues not him. A lot of trauma, and such. I'm still trying to figure all of this stuff out. Good luck man. I hope you and your girlfriend get better.
Me and my man are going through something like this except I am the one with the issues not him. A lot of trauma, and such. I'm still trying to figure all of this stuff out. Good luck man. I hope you and your girlfriend get better.
Pills don't work.
All they do is prohibit the firing of certain neuro transmitters, thus covering up the symptoms.
Meds don't take care of the actual problem.
Of course it's easier to push pills as to go through 2 years of active counseling, therapy and workshops.
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If used properly in a well designed and executed therapeutic approach... pills are intended to alleviate enough tension in the mind so that the patient can learn how to overcome their problems.
Somewhere along the lines, the medications were given more importance than the counseling.
Fluoxetine didn't help me to minimize the anxiety I felt... it just calmed me enough to where I faced my fears over and over again so I could learn.
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen
Thanks for the advice and yes I am seeing a therapist and psychiatrist. The medicine did lead me to attempt suicide (Saved by my girlfriend) but that was a lone case and dropped the medicine the next day. I have talked her into talking to her parents about it and she is going to her first therapy session the 6th. I will look into the other treatments you said.
I agree with this, and will be avoiding fights big or little now. I like the bolded part.
The bolded part is true and the part about being angry over the rape isn't true. I get angry on how she deals with things and how she acts around other people. To clarify after I she told me she was raped I automatically became protective. So I don't like it when it is her a few girls but mostly guys hanging out without me (not sure if this is insecurities or what) and one fight we had was when we were playing beer pong and to distract the other team (all guys) she turns around and shakes her ass at them. I told her to quit being a whore (Trigger) and that led to a fight.
I didn't take offense to it, I agree with what you said and it is possible with the Knight in Shining armor syndrome. I would just rather stay together if at all possible.
I was naturally shy as a child and when I became more outgoing and charismatic, I still had deep feelings of insecurities. You can't say a mental disorder doesn't exist unless you actually suffer from it. And the difference between a mental disorder and being shy is that one effects the way you live your life.
We were generally speaking 100% when we first started dating. But as time went on and things got more stressful in our outside lives we started dropping. That is why I feel we should stay together and help each other.
Thank you and I hope it works out even though we are emotionally unhealthy despite what you say.
I have been to that site but the online chat isn't helpful because it is always busy. I will check into that medicine btw. As stated above we have therapists it is just finding time to go because we both work over 40 hour weeks.
I hope we can figure something out.
I think right now she wants someone who she can lean on for emotional support. Maybe she is too overwhelm at times and cant come up with the words to say or unable to speak (like with panic disorders).
I also feel she needs to have some sense of control. And probably better to let her talk when she is ready to speak about her traumatic experience.
Just to note. Every time she tells you wants wrong she is re living the events that happen to her at the moment. You just have to be careful not to set off any of her triggers/anchors.
I want a girl who likes to talk. ......I just dont know what to say sometimes and would rather just listen.