I'll never meet the man of my dreams

[Yggdrasil]

Oh ok. Let me put it this way then.

I do care whether I will stay alone for the rest of my life and therefore I hope that I will find mr.perfect in the future.

I write about mr.perfect and his existance. That's what bothers me.

There is no Mr. Perfect. There's only Mr. and Mrs. Commited to the relation.

[Junket]

My point was searching for God is just as inane as searching for "the One".

"The one", doesn't exist, but if you believe it to be so, you'll be disappointed every time. Because even the most compatible man will never live up to a bar set to perfect.

EVER.

[WithLuv]

Once you do find that guy again, it's up to the both of you to keep things interesting and not "boring". If you don't do anything about it then of course you are going to feel trapped at some point and ready to move on. If you want that fairytale then you have to work at it. I've been in a relationship for 9 years now and you have to make an effort to keep things fresh and new. The main thing is to keep the lines of communication open and when you feel that way...then talk to your man about it instead of letting it go on for so long that by the time you might be willing to do something about it...the relationship is already done.

If you want that happy ever after then make it happen because we are all responsible for the health of the relationships in our lives, including family and friends as well.

[Mish]

First stage: I get madly in love with that person, kind of desperate, can't stop thinking about him, become jealous, start worrying, and crying and stressing about the whole thing.
Second stage: We get to talk over all these things, everything seems to stabilise, we are happy, we are in love with each other, we have the perfect relationship, we'll be together for ever and everything that comes with it.
Third stage: Things have been the same, start feeling the "eating the same food every single day". No more excitment, boring days, boring outgoings, boring supermarket weekends, same and same all over again every single day. Every now and then, I go out with friends, have some fun and being nostalgic about the "old" days. Meet some new interesting people, freshness, something different. Then go back home to the same old same. Can't stand it anymore, I need a change. Can't stand him and the whole situation. I break up. He's hurt.

This is how relationships are in the real world, if you don't want to be alone for the rest of your life then get used to it.

[Yggdrasil]

"The one", doesn't exist.[/I]

Frasbee never watched "The One" with Jet Li

(couldn't resist)

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C7woLiTBrB0"]YouTube - Jet Li The One[/ame]

[Rollerderby]

Maybe you need to like yourself more, before someone else will like you.

[vashti]

I think that I'm not suitable for that. I never get satisfied with what I've got. I'm so much jealous of everyone that is happy and satisfied and content with their long term partners, they get married and they live happily ever after.

Clearly, your friends have not yet reached the divorce cycle. They will, and you will be able to let go of this fantasy.

[Graham Berkeley]

Frasbee never watched "The One" with Jet Li

(couldn't resist)

Did they use the Quake 2 sound track?

*derails thread*

[IndiReloaded]

I'm so much jealous of everyone that is happy and satisfied and content with their long term partners, they get married and they live happily ever after.

LOL, are you joking? I think all newlyweds should be given his & hers shovels for those times you will want to bury your partner in the backyard.

There's a sticky in the main part of the forum called 'Stages of Marriage', you need to read it.

Choose your partner as carefully as you would a business partner. More carefully, actually. This person will share more responsibility and risk than most business relationships. "Love" is just one aspect of a marriage. Perhaps not even the most important part, as love changes over the years, while other responsibilities remain.

[MrNiceGuy]

I think that I'm not suitable for that. I never get satisfied with what I've got. I'm so much jealous of everyone that is happy and satisfied and content with their long term partners, they get married and they live happily ever after. This doesn't sound like me

I have tried it many times, have had a number of long relationships. The last one was 6 years. The common process in all of my relationships has had three stages:
First stage: I get madly in love with that person, kind of desperate, can't stop thinking about him, become jealous, start worrying, and crying and stressing about the whole thing.
Second stage: We get to talk over all these things, everything seems to stabilise, we are happy, we are in love with each other, we have the perfect relationship, we'll be together for ever and everything that comes with it.
Third stage: Things have been the same, start feeling the "eating the same food every single day". No more excitment, boring days, boring outgoings, boring supermarket weekends, same and same all over again every single day. Every now and then, I go out with friends, have some fun and being nostalgic about the "old" days. Meet some new interesting people, freshness, something different. Then go back home to the same old same. Can't stand it anymore, I need a change. Can't stand him and the whole situation. I break up. He's hurt.

I'm scared that my dream will never come true. That this will go on and on and on. I have been single for the last two years after 10 years of long relationships without any break, but all those relationships had the same cycle as I describe above. I've had enough of long relationships and I'm having my break now but I'm still open to guys that I think might be mr.perfect. Because I want to be madly in love with him. I don't want him to bore me to death. But I'm scared that even if I get lucky and find this person, then the same thing will happen.

Unfortunately, I'm like that with every other part of my life. Work, apartments, countries, food etc.

Is this going to go away when I get older? Or am I doomed to either not find the man of my dreams, or being forced to live a boring life if I compromise?

Get your astrology chart done and see who you are compatible with.

And don't listen to any of the bitches (women who think they have testes) on this forum.

[Junket]

Get your astrology chart done and see who you are compatible with.

Astrology.

Right.

[MrNiceGuy]

Astrology.

Right.

What does that mean?

You don't like astrology?

[Junket]

What does that mean?

You don't like astrology?

No, I love astrology it's great fun.

[MrNiceGuy]

LMFAO astrology...this shit is too ****ing good. Omg I'm seriously laughing out loud at this guy's posts.

I do astrology charts for lots of people. Especially relationships.

They are very accurate.

You seem to have issues. I did not cause them, seek counseling.

Thanks.