How can I be attractive ?

[Sonrisa]

those things are nice george, but you have a idealistic view. there is a flip side and when with the wrong person it can be quite irritating to downright impossible. sometimes people are much better off being alone. doesn't mean they are feeling lonely. you need to enjoy your own company before you can enjoy other company otherwise it's a lost cause.

no people don't need a relationship with the opposite sex. that's been drilled into you from the beginning. it's not true

this is only impossible and irritating for you, eco. for most normal people a companionship is a completely natural and a much needed part of life.

you and George are two completely intolerable human beings and pretty much need to create shitty excuses about not needing a partner instead of making a drastic change in your personalities.

[ecojeanne]

^^are you having a bad day sonrisa?

[Sonrisa]

maybe no, not really. i still think that people should live in pairs, and be able to try and work towards perfecting themselves to be more tolerable by others.

[ecojeanne]

^^well i will agree to disagree with you

[Sonrisa]

exactly, cuz you and george have tried it but people can't seem to tolerate either one.

[ecojeanne]

it's not about people tolerating you, its about whether you can tolerate yourself is the most important. when people spend their lives in the superficial world and can't see past it; they think that people 'liking' them is more important and that it can even validate their goodness as a person; that's the false ego darlin', a lot of people live in this fantasy and infact this issue can be dibilitating when they recognise or decide to recognise that 'other people' decide they are not of high enough status. it's all superficial

[Mish]

Sex, affection, something to do on a friday and sunday night. Someone to come home to to help with the lonileness, a warm bed at night, the usual stuff. I am not a child therefore why does anyone ever want a boyfriend or girlfriend. The answer should be obvious.

What about an ugly girlfriend? She won't reject you on your looks. You know, there is a huge market out there of unattractive or semi attractive women just waiting to be approached by a guy. ANY guy. This could be your niche. You could be the master of that world.

[IndiReloaded]

This article seems like a good place to start:

[url]http://www.keralapals.com/articles/attraction_girls.html[/url]

George, post some pics (no you, I know you are shy) of some guys you think you might like to dress like. We gals will let you know what we think.

[BoredGeorge]

What about an ugly girlfriend? She won't reject you on your looks. You know, there is a huge market out there of unattractive or semi attractive women just waiting to be approached by a guy. ANY guy. This could be your niche. You could be the master of that world.

Are you suggesting I become and escort ?

I thought about ugly women but it would not work.

Semi attractive women - lots, and lots, and lots, of men have that idea. Which is partly the reason why so many women end up feeling used after having a one night stand. Attractive men target semi attractive women for quick lay. The difficulty curve is virtually the same for semi attractive vs attractive in that the increased ease is compensated for by increased competition due to the woman being approachable.

[Raze]

Have you tried using a dating site?

[Sonrisa]

i still think that the first place to start is your personalities, now George has an advantage of being younger thus more susceptible to change. there's nothing more attractive to women as a guy with good manners and strong personalities, who knows how to handle themselves in any situation.

[Yggdrasil]

no people don't need a relationship with the opposite sex. that's been drilled into you from the beginning. it's not true

I actualy agree with eco on this one.

People don't 'NEED' relationships.

[Raze]

I actualy agree with eco on this one.

People don't 'NEED' relationships.

It depends on the person. Relationships are not NEEDED. But I have to admit, they are nice at times. They are nice at times and they are bad at times. It really depends on the person. The only people I really see happy being single are the people that are swingers.

[jupsik]

Ok George...here is what i think WILL work for you.
First there is no need to look for this perfect looking woman. NO need what so ever. It will come to you. You think now "how". Its simple. While you are out, with friends, you found a woman to talk to...or you are good friend already. Here is what works always for me. Always
You need to think like they do. If it sound you like a "gay-thing"...then fine. But you cant deal with woman like you deal with man. You need to think like she is thinking. If she likes something, agree with her. You might even like it too.
If you talk with her...NEVER talk about your friends (guys). You want that she is interested in you, not in your friends.
If you really dont know how and im confusing you...just think about "if 2 girls (best friends)" go out for a walk and talk. What they will do...how they act etc. You must show that even a man can be womans best friend. Usually its like man talks to man, woman to woman...and usually they are best friends.

And if we look at gay guys...they have lots of women around if they go out partying and something else. WHY? They think like women.


It really doesnt matter how you look, or who you are. What matters is what kind of person you are inside. You must show women that they can trust you as their best girfriend. And if you get it, how...i`ll promise you...you have lots on women around you..who would like to have you as their friend...or even more.

I hope my advice gave you some tips.

Cheers

[IndiReloaded]

Relationships help one grow. Sometimes its pleasant, sometimes its painful.

But I think there are totally people out there who have absolutely no business being in a relationship. Or having kids in one, even more so.

There are other ways to personally develop. But, IMO, most people who shun relationships do so b/c they are damaged in some way, not that they are more evolved. The only exceptions I can think of are people who were in LTRs and lost their partner (i.e. widow(er)s, etc.) who made a conscious decision to be alone and are happy with their choice.