Is this over the line by my girlfriend?

**girl68** · 10-09-09, 04:58 AM

LOL Of course she says she isn't using you! Who would step up and admit "yes, sir I am in fact using you, once I am done you will be gone." No one, that's who.

You walked right into this one... you are indeed the nice guy that will finish last. You are in love with a woman who is using you and your money to benefit her children. You claim you are in love, ok fine. But you do realize she does not love you back right? If you would like to remain "stuck" then fine accept the situation as is, becasue clearly she has you submissive and trapped.

Advice for you is useless you refuse to do anything about it.

**joejoe3** · 10-09-09, 05:11 AM

as I say to her, "I give you 100% of my love and affections and I feel you only giving 60%, why can't you give 100% or is this as much as you can give me." She never answers this question, changes the subject to it's me not her.

However, she is still married and is for sure using her husband for money to support her living out of state and taking the kids with and the husband knows about me too. AND STILL KEEPS GIVING HER MONEY. Just a second ago she calls me and says that her husband just told her she has a $600 cell phone bill which he is paying, that is 95% exclusive calls to me while on her cruise overseas. Now it's my fault again, for talking with her too long on the cruise. It takes two to talk right? it's not all my fault !

**girl68** · 10-09-09, 05:17 AM

LOL- sorry man, this is too funny now.

**joejoe3** · 10-09-09, 05:32 AM

volunteer to pay half the cell phone bill, since she was talking to me? It seems like the fair thing to do. I know this is funny, but I am serious.

I have many concerns about this women and have entangled myself in this web that I feel I cannot get out of without hurting her kids and her. I'd rather stay in it, if this has a rainbow at the end. What are your thoughts. Thank you.

**girl68** · 10-09-09, 05:44 AM

I think she's going to rain on everyone's little rainbow.

Baby's daddy has to pay child support. If you want to do right by her kids (don't give a shit about her). Call baby's daddy and tell him you'd like to pay for the phone bill but you'd also like to quit paying for school. You are not responsible for paying for school.

And who is to say you can't pay for the school as mommy's ex boyfriend? That would be the best thing to do.

This woman is NO good. None, nilche, nadda.

**Gigabitch** · 10-09-09, 05:49 AM

Agreed. There's no rainbow. Life is too short to spend it with a woman who disrespects you like this.

Maybe the married guy's wife will find out and take care of this problem for you.

**joejoe3** · 10-09-09, 06:05 AM

She is extremely intelligent and was going to be a doctor in psychology prior to running her own business, which makes no money. Get this too..... she also use to be a multi-millionare but spent it all, and has nothing but a mansion that cannot sell and some fancy cars to show for it, no joke!

She can turn ANYTHING around and come out smelling like roses. What should I do so I do not look like the jerk who left her high and dry and hurt her kids? She too smart for me to manipulate. Please help. Thank you.

**joejoe3** · 10-09-09, 06:07 AM

take me to court based on a verbal contract which I said I'd pay and have paid the first installment. Please help ...

**IndiReloaded** · 10-09-09, 06:35 AM

Attention whore. You must not give her enough. Tho doubtful any one man can... I agree with everyone else.

Good luck.

**Bumble_bee** · 10-09-09, 09:09 AM

how noble of you to want to stick around and see out your promise to put her kids through school and she knows it too.

Your being taken for the biggest rife of your life....enjoy...or not.

PS: there is such a thing as emotional cheating, and that is exactly what she is doing, confront her about it or carrying on being emotinally screwed to the maximum.

**Gigabitch** · 11-09-09, 12:31 AM

Originally Posted by joejoe3

She can turn ANYTHING around and come out smelling like roses.

Oh, I'm smelling something, but it's not roses.

Originally Posted by joejoe3

What should I do so I do not look like the jerk who left her high and dry and hurt her kids? She too smart for me to manipulate. Please help. Thank you.

Why do you care what it looks like? Who is this audience that you think is judging you? She's an asshole, she's behaving disrespectfully to your relationship, she's very likely cheating on you and you're worried about what people will think?

Newsflash: her kids are going to see her more clearly when they're older. They'll KNOW she drove you away, and these are not your kids. With a mom like that, they're likely to act up like crazy when they're teenagers anyway, and no amount of good intentions on your part can save them from her.

You can only save yourself. You should. Disengage from the drama and get your life sorted out, you enabler.

**Bumble_bee** · 11-09-09, 01:32 AM

Man is there something you're not telling us, like does she beat the crap out of you if you don't give her your cheque every month??

Sorry to sound annoyed, but heck I am now, what is it with you, are you a gluton for punishment? Leave the woman, she cannot take you to court for legal action, the judge would laugh in her face,she is already getting money from her husband....what about your kids, are you paying for them as well as hers?

please oh please grow some balls before she bleeds you dry.

**bluesummer** · 16-09-09, 09:55 AM

This woman is a manipulative, crazy whore.

First of all, the texting and flirting and chats are not 'friendly'. She is a total attention whore. If I caught my man doing that stuff, our relationship would be OVER, because it's completely inappropriate. Completely. I really CAN NOT believe you are putting up with this at all. If a guy said somethig or texted me something sexually explicit, I would tell him off because I'm ina relationship and it's disrespectful to the person I'm with. Take care of this crap ASAP!

Secondly, she is clearly using you for money. Why on earth would you just GIVE her $10k in inventory to sell on eBay? Why on earth would you pay for her children's tuition? Sounds like she's guilt-tripping and blackmailing you....."If you don't pay my child's tuition I'll have to move back and it'll be all your fault because I moved for you." WTF? Maybe she should've considered putting her kid in public school, it's FREE and no one would have to go....that's something she would've done if she really cared.

This woman is poison. I can't put it any plainer, get rid of her or you're going to be freaking miserable. Who cares if she has to move, her kids will make new friends.

**IndiReloaded** · 16-09-09, 11:46 AM

Originally Posted by Bumble_bee

Man is there something you're not telling us, like does she beat the crap out of you if you don't give her your cheque every month??

LOL, I wondered something like this. This whole thread stinks. Are you really this dumb, Joe? If so, mbe you deserve this gal, you know, as payment for the sign on your forehead that says "schmuck".

**Mish** · 16-09-09, 12:20 PM

Has this guy replied to anyone's post? I'm start to suspect he's a bot.

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