How to get over someone who you talk to every day?

[workaholic70]

Well, I told her too that I love her... :/
So did you get over her or? and how?

I somehow 'refocused' my love for her from that of a potential partner to that of a friend.

I occasionally get the male-for-female feelings for there, but on the whole I love her truly as a friend. In addition, this person now knows I love her as a friend and is more comfortable and open around me than she was when I declared 'open love' for hear a while back.

HTH

[lionwoman]

The best way to get over someone is to let them go completely. You'll meet new friends. I personally don't believe in recycled relationships. Starting fresh is the best gift you can give to yourself.

[arubian]

workalcoholic70, how do you do that? I had the same option a few months ago and i choose option two. I rememeber trying to be just friends but the pain was to much, i remember thinking about her all day. So how can you love her as a friend if you think about her all day?

[workaholic70]

workalcoholic70, how do you do that? I had the same option a few months ago and i choose option two. I rememeber trying to be just friends but the pain was to much, i remember thinking about her all day. So how can you love her as a friend if you think about her all day?

I went through the pain...the tears, upset, 'self-rejection' etc.

Took just under a year, and still saw her during this time.

The driving factor for me was that if you love someone enough, you will go through that pain to: a) be with them, b) make them comfortable being around you, c) ensure you keep that special friendship as a long term objective...this friendship was special enough to deserve this effort.

It does take self-sacrifice, alot of it. However, once you come out of the other side...

[WonderMan]

Did you try anything? To be with her, or something?

[workaholic70]

Did you try anything? To be with her, or something?

I didn't try anything. I simply plucked up enough courage to tell her that I had always loved her.

[WonderMan]

Well, do you think that I should tell my friend that I still love her..? Because I may have told her I don't love her anymore in that way, while I was trying to convince my self that I'm really not, which didn't work btw. Do you think I should just tell her and see her reaction, and then maybe talk with her about what should I do, because I would probably be more comfortable if she knew...

[Lite]

Uh, pretty much you have to put extremely strict limits on what you will and will not discuss with her, and it will hurt your relationship with her.

That's just kind of how it works. If you can't follow your own self-imposed limits, then you need to just stop talking to her.

[WonderMan]

Meh **** this you know. I have no idea what will I do. Probably nothing.

[jiggsaw]

I'm kinda in the same situation. We're still very good friends. We laugh and joke, etc. We talk at least every other day if not every day. Sometimes it's hard, sometimes it's not. There is a #1 rule though. Never tell her you want her back or want to try the relationship again. I know you love her but if she's the one who left, she has to be the one to want it again. But don't count on that. Even though you talk to her, you have to move on with your life. The biggest mistake you can make is putting your life on hold for her. Your only other option is cutting all ties.

[WonderMan]

Yeah thanks... I don't know I won't let my life revolve arround her, but I'm not gonna cut all ties that's for sure.

Btw, your name.. I got scared that you are her, since we play jigsaw on msn a lot lol, and she loves it... (so do I)

[Lovable]

The people on here have given you some good advice & different types of options for you to think about or do to help yourself get over her.

If she's a true friend, then you should be able to talk to her about your feelings for her. Let her know how you feel, maybe she feels the same & hasn't told you yet. If she doesn't feel the same, then you 2 can talk about that & then you can better figure out what's the best way to get over her.

[WonderMan]

Maybe... I'll think about that option, but I already told her before, and now she thinks I'm not in love anymore, and she feels more comfrtable talking to me if she thinks I don't love her like that anymore, so i'm not sure.

[kuaisudi]

You must believe in yourself, you can only confident you want to pursue

[WonderMan]

yeah.........