Is it true that if a guy likes you, he would call you and if he doesn't do that....

[LailaK]

Are you saying that women shouldn't express interest in guys first, or simply that guys who depend on women making the first move are "lazy, inexperienced, and/or scared"?

I'm saying that it has been my experience that guys who depend on women making the first move are lazy, inexperienced and/or scared. Maybe it's the San Francisco air but that's what I've run up against. I actually prefer to be the initiator (I like the idea of creating my own destiny and making things happen). But I've found much more success when I play it cool.

[Incognito]

Yes, the key word in your statement is depend. I agree that men who depend on a woman to make that first move all the time are either lazy, inexperienced, and/or scared. I'd say more times than not they are inexperienced though. I kind of hate to say "scared" too, it sounds rather undignified. I'd probably say unconfident, which better summarizes the feeling (since I was once one of those people long ago). I did muster the courage to talk to women back then, but not all of them (especially after no one being interested all night).

[LailaK]

I agree with you on those points.

[ibusiness]

I just find it kind of weird to go up to him and tell him that you like him or ask for his phone number.. I have never went up to him or talk to him like that either.. Usually, when you like someone, you just like someone, you know...

[Equine_Summer]

I just find it kind of weird to go up to him and tell him that you like him or ask for his phone number.. I have never went up to him or talk to him like that either.. Usually, when you like someone, you just like someone, you know...

maybe you should go see him adn just give him your number then leave that would give him the big hint I would think. I did this once I worked in a mall and a really hot guy worked at one of the little booths in the hall I didnt have the nerve to talk to him so finally I just wrote call me and my cell # then I handed it to him smiled and walked off. He called 3 days later

[ibusiness]

Well.. I don't think I would do that. It's just weird.. If he is interested in me, wouldn't he call me instead? He should have my phone number from the job application. I think that if there is a mutual connection, then there is no need for a hint, right? I mean, if he knows that I like him and he likes me, then there is no need for a hint. If he doesn't know that I like him, then there is not a connection there and so maybe it's just one-sided and something in my own imagination... Isn't that true? Anyway, he hasn't called me yet, so well, I think maybe there isn't anything then? Also, it makes me feel good to think that he is around all the time, like a phone call away and sometimes I feel like he is feeling the same way as me too.. I don't know if he is really feeling the same as I do but I seem to be inclined to think that he feels the same way as I do ...I don't know why I feel that way but that's what I feel. Would you know why I feel that way and how true can it be? Is that normal or what? Also, I am still feeling depressed and don't know how to get out of it..

[Equine_Summer]

well first off all as others have stated its illegal and perhaps after being terminated they tossed you application? secondly he may very well like you BUT as Im understanding most men arent the most observant and often need a BIG sign because for all you know He could be thinking the same thing you are at this very moment. does she like me am I imagining things? besides handing him your number wouldnt be wierd since you would likely only have to say hi smile then leave. then he knows you are interested if its one sides what do you have to lose?

[ibusiness]

Ok well.. I have called my work place and asked the supervisor there if he knows anyone has anything they want to talk to me about and he said no and that if they do, they would call me. So, you know, I don't think there is anything between me and the guy anymore, you know.... because if there is, the people there may know and he would let me know... So.. and I really can't keep calling them anymore... They already think I have called them too much and don't understand why I keep calling.... So, I guess the answer is: there is nothing between me and the guy.. just nevermind.. it really isn't such a big deal that I have to keep calling them, you know... It's not good either.. So, don't tell me to call them again because I won't.

[cmacattack1]

If you want to know the answer to a question, just ask. Maybe he might be scared if you are direct but at least you are getting somewhere.

Whether you're a confident person or not, you are going to have to take the ups and downs to each. You aren't and you wish that you were, you can certainly try to do so more. If not, don't complain about what options you do or will get. You are responsible for your actions.

[Incognito]

Don't expect to find out if he like you or not by calling there and asking a supervisor "is there anything anyone wants to talk to me about?". That seems very random, and very weird. If you have a question about you broken I730 cell phone, you don't go into a store and ask the associate about the text message plans on the blackberry models. If you want a specific answer, ask a specific question.....and to the person you want the answer from. If you can't do that or something as simple as leaving your number with a smiley face, then you should just forget about it.

[ibusiness]

Well, they have my phone number. I would think that if the guy is interested in me, he would have tried to call me. If not, that means he is not that interested you know... Anyway, I probably would have to forget about it. It's just ridiculous because I am still depressed and can't get out of it... One shouldn't have to suffer like that for nothing ....The problem is not what answer I'll get from him. Even if he tells me that he is not interested in me, that still won't help me get out of my depression ...

[VincenzoG91]

If I were that guy and I was interested in you, I still wouldn't call you under these circumstances, because it would be perfectly logical for you to be unhappy with everybody in management from that job. If, however, you came in and gave me your number and said call me sometime, I would take that as a clear sign that I could call you and ask you out. Still, it's also possible that he just isn't interested in you that way.

[Incognito]

Don't waste your time vincent. She has had her questions answered multiple times, been given multiple solutions (including the one you just gave) and continues to complain about this guy not calling. People who don't take the initiative don't get anything. If you're hungry the food doesn't just jump into your mouth. You have to place it there, chew, and swallow. If YOU want to know how this guy feels then do something about it instead of whining and ignoring the common sense advice that everyone is giving you here.

[ibusiness]

I did call him and then he kept asking why I called him at his work place and asked if it's job related and when I said no, then he asked why I call him at the work place... I asked if he wants to be friends and he didn't respond me back or say yes and just went on and asked why I called him at the work place and just hang up on me... During the call, I also asked him how old he is and he told me. But I called him back again to ask how old he is just to be sure I heard it correctly and he didn't know why I asked again and I explained that I thought he could be a different age and he told me his age again and also asked why I called him at the work number. I said I don't have any more questions and then he said okay and hung up... Does he sound like he is not interested in me then because he never offered to give me his phone number or asked for mine either and just asked why I called at the work number and hang up on me... I don't have his personal number, so I can only call the work number... Does he not know that or he just is not interested in me and doesn't want me to call him again??

[Incognito]

Ok look.... This thread was last commented on (by me no less) in March. Why bring it up again? If you haven't gotten it through your head by now that you need to stop trying to contact him on the job or on the work phone number, and that you need to talk to this guy, its a lost cause. Actually given the length of time since you left and your repeated calls to his job (if I remember correctly) he is probably thinking that you are weird or a stalker (I would). Move on and find someone else. Maybe your paths will cross again sometime in the distant future, but you shouldn't get so hung up on someone like this. Meet someone new and move on with your life.