She wants me to "believe in her"

[lahnnabell]

Playing Nintendo?

She's not prioritizing your relationship or her livelihood and she needs to. Red flag. Something tells me she's gonna have to learn the hard way. I think you're coddling her too much.

[Goosio]

I think our relationship is a priority to her, but I think she may not realize our relationship depends partly on her ability to maintain her own life.

[lahnnabell]

Her failure to understand this at 39 years of age means that your relationship is not a priority. She has been quite selfish in expecting you to help her pick up HER slack. Does she want you to wipe her ass for her too? She is a grown woman.

I think you need to issue an ultimatum. Like I said, be calm and cool about it, but you need to let her know that this can't happen anymore. She can't just wait around for her funding to run out. You've been putting up with it so far, so she has no real reason to suspect you'll walk. You may have to call her bluff. Are you ready for that?

[Goosio]

Thanks for the advice. The honest answer is no I'm not ready for an ultimatum, but things may be headed in that direction. I hope I'm wrong.