I would rather retain the relationship, but that doesn't mean I could retain the relationship.Originally Posted by the_menace
She may not want you to change anything, though have you asked her whether she wishes you could change certain things, even if in reality they're immutable?I ask her what I need to change and what should I do make it better? She said she don't want me to do anything.
There's a large difference between six months and ten years. It's possible that she's just now realized how long the relationship would actually have to remain the way it is currently.I know being in college and a long distance relationship is tough but we've dealt with it already for the last 6 months.
This is a good idea.I don't think abandoning school will be necessary but I'm willing to relocate in her area for the sake of keeping the relationship. I love her and I'll do anything to make things better for us.
No, I don't- I can understand it, however I doubt I would be able to live with it myself. There are always obligations and responsibilities, though only to a point. Some things need to have a priority regardless of whatever else is transpiring.At the same time, she has to work and me the same time; we have our obligations and its been working since we can take care of our own business together. Don't you think its enough?
Granted, she is supportive. Did you consider when she was convincing you, that she might have been doing it selflessly, and placed herself in a situation that she may not be able to remain in for an extended period of time?OK several month or just a month ago, we already talked about our long-term relationship and me still being in college is not an issue. She even convince me to finish it cause I'm smart.
This question is impossible to answer truthfully.I asked her a simple question before which goes like, "are you ever going to leave me?"
It's entirely possible that she could simply be overwhelmed at the moment.We talked last night and she told me a lot of things which might have changed the way she thinks of our relationship. She lives at home by the way and work full-time in Kaiser. She's stressed because she wants to move out but she can't. She's stressed that she has to support her mom and also to feed me during the weekends I visit. She's also stressed that she's not utilizing her degree right and she can't get a job that she deserves. She also helps out her mom at the same time with groceries, etc. to make it more stressed for herself. She get stressed but it usually goes away after a few days. I hope that this is what's happening.
I believe that this can be interpreted in two ways: First, financially; that has been discussed already. Secondly, by "support" she could mean the type of support she should be receiving in a relationship, being emotional support and the support of a partner who's an active part of her daily life. Repeating the above statement could be showing that she doesn't think you'll be able to provide her with the other types of support that would normally be offered in a relationship, which would be my conclusion as well (read the "Don't you think it's enough?" comment).The part that got me is she told me that I can NEVER support her. I told her I can later but not right now. She repeatedly said no.
You might want to genuinely consider this option, I believe it would help quite substantially.I'm very willing to work things out even to the point where I have to relocate college so I can live with her. Or she can live with me here where I live and look for a job here.