Is she no longer interested or do I still have a shot?

[girl68]

Promise to update?!

[Chris4984]

I promise!

[girl68]

Goodluck!

FYI by the initial sounds of things she IS interested...

[Chris4984]

Thank You! I'm just really nervous. I haven't been in this kind of situation for a long time now.

[Chris4984]

Well I called Friday and left a message asking her to do something on a weekend. I told her to call me back. I never heard back from her. Now I feel like a rejected idiot.

[Chris4984]

Well, just when I thought she was no longer interested because I hadn't heard from her, I saw her yesterday she was with someone and looked over at me from across the room and smiled and said hello, I said hi back but wasn't going to strike up a convo in front of her friend and ask her if she wanted to go out sometime and if she got my message, later that night I got a text from her saying she was hoping to have talked to me earlier when I saw her and that she got my message and was sorry she didn't get back to me sooner and she told me to give her a call today! This is good news right? I mean, she wouldn't have me call her up just to tell me she isn't interested, would she?

[girl68]

I dunno man she seems like a game player. She desires to be the object of your chase. If you want, and can bear the thought of another potential rejection, call her but let this be THE LAST TIME. Honestly, though it doesn't sound good. If she was really interested she would have came to talk to you and aplogized to your face about not returning her call. Instead she cowerdly texts you "oh call me" (ie, call me please, chase me, like me, desire me- but I'm too busy I just can't call you back.) That is not reciprocated interest.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.

OR>>> text her back say, "you never answer, but you can feel free to call me, when you have time!" and then cut your losses.

BTW how old are you and her?

[Chris4984]

I'm 26 and I think she's the same age. I dunno...she didn't have to text me AT ALL if she wasn't interested or smile and wave at me and say hello yesterday. Some girls like be chased, do they not? It doesn't necessarily mean they aren't interested. Like I said, what was the point of her texting me? Did she want to text me just so I could call back and she could reject me over the phone? I'm pretty sure she's not a cruel person. Her text could have easily said something about her just being too busy to go out, then I would have moved on. And there wasn't a chance for her to approach me and talk to me face to face, she was working and in the middle of something important.

[girl68]

Liking to be chased DOES NOT MEAN INTEREST. Dude, didn't I take a entire forum page to tell you that?

[girl68]

Well I don't know what you tell you call her a billion times and recieve a text a week later saying sorry I didn't text you back.

Let me tell you something thats a secret: WHEN A GIRL LIKES YOU SHE WILL WANT TO SEE, TALK, HANG OUT WITH YOU. At 26, you should really learn this soon.

[Chris4984]

I appreciate your advice, but you really have no clue whether or not this girl is interested because you really don't know. She could be shy. Do you really think she is a mean enough person to tell me to call her and then have her reject me over the phone? She could have flat out told me she wasn't interested in that very same text, that would have been much easier for her than to have me call her and talk to her over the phone. I'll find out tonight and report back.

[girl68]

It has nothing to do with mean. Mean would be "listen asshole, I love the attention you pay to me, but I will never, ever date you". She is blowing you off in a very nice, timid way.

Do you really want a girl who continually blows you off, forgets to call, and doesn't give you more than a HI, in the gym? I'm sorry, that IS disinterest. You are one who doesn't have a clue.

Sorry it's harsh but you just don't get that she just isn't into you. Talk is cheap, actions are money, she hasn't given you any sort of promising action...

[Chris4984]

Well, I hope I can prove you wrong later. Tell me, what was the point of her text last night? If she didn't contact me at all, I would get the clue and forget about her. I already figured she wasn't interested when I hadn't heard back from her by Monday. She had no purpose to send the text, now did she? Why would she want me to call her again if she had no interest at all? What do you think she is going to tell me on the phone tonight, if you had to guess?

And also, she didn't continually blow me off. She didn't call me back once. So she blew me off once. And did you not read what I wrote, she is a trainer there, she was in the middle of working with someone, do you really think she's going to stop doing her JOB and come over to me? She originally said yes to a date and immediately suggested possible dates. I blew her off by not calling her to set up that date. Do you think all girls are the exact same and do the exact same things when they are interested in someone? What does a shy girl do? Did you ever think this girl could be a bit shy?

[girl68]

If I had to guess: like I said a bunch of times aleady she wants to hold your attention she wants to keep you wrapped around her little finger, she knew you almost forgot about her so she decided to make you remember her and come back for the chase.

She called you once, how many times have you tried to get in touch? 4, 5? That's a pretty unblanced don't you think?

Whatever man, you're like the girl who just can't possibly phanthom any idea other than the one you have in your head. Whatever, keep calling.

[Chris4984]

Yeah, and you're probably the girl who thinks she is right about everything based on what she reads on a message board. I'm calling one more time, then I'll have my answer. And for the record, I've called her twice, not 4 or 5 times. The first time I told her not to call me back. She's training for a competition next month and the training is very very intense and time consuming, she could legitimately be busy. She said the weeks were booked up. She's free on weekends. I'll call her tonight and if she flakes out again, I'll stop. She doesn't have me wrapped around her figure, you're view is pretty distorted. I'm barely chasing her. I've asked her out once and called her twice. Huge chase there.