b/f has a "hot" co-worker

[blue]

no not all guys are trust worthy i agree but some are. i think that at some level you do need to be aware of whats going on around you and walk around with your eyes open and if you have a feeeling ladises dont ignore it confront it do what you need to do cuz it sucks to be the last to know. you know what this goes for the men too.

[KirstyM]

Of course it goes for men too, "not all guys are trustworthy" is correct, but you can say exactly the same thing about women too - it's a people thing, not a guy thing.

[blue]

i totaly agree with you!

[Chrono]

no not all guys are trust worthy i agree but some are. i think that at some level you do need to be aware of whats going on around you and walk around with your eyes open and if you have a feeeling ladises dont ignore it confront it do what you need to do cuz it sucks to be the last to know. you know what this goes for the men too.

What it all boils down to is everybody's past expeirence with these things. If a woman has dated only untrustworthy guys, then she's going to tend to think that they all are. She may even meet a guy who is trustworthy, but think that they're up to something.

[KirstyM]

What it all boils down to is everybody's past expeirence with these things. If a woman has dated only untrustworthy guys, then she's going to tend to think that they all are. She may even meet a guy who is trustworthy, but think that they're up to something.

True...though people should try to keep an open mind

[blue]

nuttin wrong with being cautious...nothing wrong with being open

[KirstyM]

Well you cant go around assuming all men (or women) will be untrustworthy purely because you've had a couple of bad experiences in the past

[blue]

no i agree with that and i am happy to say that becuz of my past experiences i have learned and i dont put blame on anyone that i may be with and make them pay for others mistakes. i am forgiving to myself and to others. but if i have a weird funny feeling in my gut my instinct it will not go ignored. i think that you wouldnt ignore it either. but its about communication too.

[KirstyM]

its about communication too.

Yes you are damn right there

[PandaCivic]

if that girl lets him, he'll cheat on you with her...

[leight69]

this really strikes me as a case of having to learn to trust and getting over insecurities. Sure we are all going to be tempted by people each and everyday of our lives. Even in the healthiest...especially in the healthiest of relationships, we will all look elsewhere. Its really about what we about it, and how we communicate our problems with each other.

The way I see it is right now I have a hot co-worker, and it just makes me want to go home to my partner...*cough* if I had one. I mean this women is eye candy and fun all day, but it doesnt mean I want to do anything about it. (Namely that I'm the student intern and she is about 10 years old then I am and married).

The way I see it if you're insecure, its just a matter of picking the person you're insecure about - its not the person (in this case the hot coworker) but the idea (of your boyfriend wanting someone else more) that worries you.

[Chrono]

Well you cant go around assuming all men (or women) will be untrustworthy purely because you've had a couple of bad experiences in the past

That's true, but experience is how the mind works. For you psych majors: classical conditioning.

[sfalexi]

That's true, but experience is how the mind works. For you psych majors: classical conditioning.

Exactly.

I myself have moved into a new area. I'll give almost ANYONE the benefit of the doubt. But once you screw me over in ANY way (of some significant importance and without a damned good excuse), you've been shitlisted.

Rod Steele

[KirstyM]

if that girl lets him, he'll cheat on you with her...

Why? Maybe he actually loves his girlfriend, not all guys cheat.

[luvtif]

i know how you feel. i would prefer my guy to work with only men!! the problem is he works with all girls!! but i've seen a few of them and heard about the rest. there is only one i'm worried about. she is cute ( i wouldn't say hot, but she could easily be considered cuter than me). but the prob is is that she likes him-little bitch!! He's never acted wierd or worked late so I have no reason to be suspicious though!!