Advice/opinions please!!

[MancMusician]

Fair point. Okay well compatible. Most of them - yes I think so. The only difference is we have different ways of dealing with stress - she closes up and I open up. But she's a good listener I'm good at not prying but making it plain that if she doesn't want to talk then she can.

I know I panicked. But in fairness it was a one-off which happened after I had been awake about 5 minutes. I understood the initial break up. What confuses me is that we were going along great as friends that might get back together at some point and then a few months down the line, she completely changed her mind.

We are now both honest. After that episode I've been completely honest even if it's some pathetically tiny thing. And that's not to try and push back for a relationship - it's just to try and rebuild her trust in me as a friend so she has someone she can turn to if she needs to. I reckon she does have bigger issues to work through. I think they well probably be sorted out at uni. Which is why I'm wondering if people think that this is something of a waiting game that i have to play here.

[Lite]

Those issues don't sort themselves out at UNI. They sort themselves out by figuring out what is broken with you, and how to get around that in a healthy manner.

You shouldn't play any waiting game, you should move on with your life and let her move on with hers. Be friends, and if it works it works.

Waiting on what will likely never come, only lead to being bitter and jaded. Great if you want to write sad breakup songs. Terrible if you want a real relationship, real love, and a good life for yourself.

[MancMusician]

Well I know uni won't sort them out but I reckon (from my own experience of having been there two years) that while at uni a lot of us do figure out what's broken about ourselves and get aorund it in a healthy manner. I am getting on with my life and keeping her as my best friend as she was for the 5 years before we went out. But the fact is I do love her and right now, that doesn't hurt me. As long as I have her friendship still. If nothing ever happens, I will naturally move on, as will she and the friendship stays.