Originally Posted by
Cerby
I read the whole thread, but this post stood out to me the most. There was simply too much second guessing and reading into this situation. As an ex-overweight guy myself, and 26, near your age, I know what the low confidence is like, but I've also learned to pull the trigger when I have to. Seeing that it was almost 2 weeks before you followed up, any lingering feelings that might have built up would have all but disappeared on her end.
I would have had the adrenaline push and asked her out on her last day when I gave the number. Saying things like "keep in touch" aren't the way to pick up girls, they just give all the power to them.
This is a tough lesson, if you had gone for it, you would have felt the quick sting of rejection and then began to move on, easily because she is out of you life. Instead you have allowed yourself a slow painful death over weeks and weeks that still ended with the same result - rejection.
If it were me, I'd draft up a wicked email (unless I had her number, then I'd balls up and call her), and tell her what you need to. No more "stay in touch" crap, that does nothing for nobody in the dating world.