Got feelings for a friend but i question them?

[girl68]

i told her today, she wanted me to come over tonight to talk more about it. shes knows about the other girl and said im single im not her b/f even though she wants me to be her b/f. now she wants to take pills to pass out at night. i dunno wtf her deal is, its not good to get a text at lunch saying i dont do this anymore i want to end it all. i told her she needs to get some help, i gotta at least be there for her but shes taking this way out of proportion.

It's usually a pathetic cry for attention. BUT she could also be serious. If you think she IS serious about doing something stupid like ODing on pills I suggest you take your concern to her parents and her friends. YOU cannot be the one to step in and pick her up because if you are you will just bruden yourself more with being her crutch and she will *never* let you go, so don't do it. You can still get together and talk with her.

You must make it clear nothing will happen between you 2 from this point on. You can be friends but suggest taking it easy for a few weeks to let the negative feelings subside, this is for HER good, not yours. Explain that you're still going to be her friend becasue she's fun and cool but you just don't want a relationship. If you fail to make this clear she'll be crazy on your for God knows how long. Tell her you still care and don't want her to do anything stupid, because you actaully like her as a friend. Comfort her but as friends only NO TOUCHING! Hug goodbye is okay, that's it. No kisses, no cheek kisses no kisses period kisses means more than friends, hugs mean comfort between caring individuals.

[oldskool83]

yeah i got another text saying shes in philly...i dont konw her parents. she dont live with them. her gramparents is who she lives with but they are not home til end of month. no sure where they are at or numbers. Im like her life support now i feel. i dont like that feeling. i already own my ex g/f life for a new months yet i dont want this kinda pressure on me.

i got text 3 mins ago saying iff i "off myself" im not telling you. she has not eating since tuesday when we got a burger together. thats the day her male roomate left who she thought he liked her but he didnt. I dunno what to do, i dont want this shit on me. shes been really emothional last 3 weeks.

what a shitty year.......

[girl68]

I'm not buying your excuses to not tell anyone. She has friends and family I suggest you get on FB and figure it out, talk to your school counsellor, tell her best friends... It ain't up to you to fix her you can only try to get her help- she clearly needs it.

[oldskool83]

i went over last night, basicly ripped into her saying stop talking so dumb. she keeps it up, my one friend was concerded also shes been posting odd shit on her FB page. Im really just fed up with the BS. Girl has issues, im not doing anything anymore. what ever her problem is has to do with her no being able to accept being alone, at all. sumone always has to be around. its gotten me to the point where im just upset. I belive she will be placed on the im not going to relaly be your friend anymore because your full of drama queen tendencies.

not hangin out with her for awhile, i can see why her roomate left, he said shes too needy...100% dead on.

[girl68]

I do think though if you're serious about her as a friend... you should take a few steps to help by that I mean figure out who to call. Get on the phone with someone from her family- by any means necessary. If you think she's serious about doing something stupid I suggest you do this- she does need help.

Also talk to her friends that she does have. Tell them you're concerned about her but you also can't be her emotional crutch. And lastly if you can't find anyone go talk to one of her teachers... a teacher has the knowledge and resources to get in touch with professionals or her family.

[oldskool83]

dude were 27.......there are not teachers lol! two adults who work.

[girl68]

SHE'S 27! Christ...

She acts like a 15 year old little girl, you should have run as fast as you could about 11.5 months ago.

[oldskool83]

damn right, clingy as shit, pitty me im alone BS all the time. she got the idea i dont wanna be with her. I only want her as a friend. so now it seems i went back to just hanging out, watching a movie or getting a bite to eat at a pizza joint when we were both hellish board.

no hugs, no kiss, no touch. shes hurt, but oh well. if i font have feelings by now im going to get them. i see her as a chunky good hearted friend, nothing more.