Is Good Sex Essential in a Romantic Relatioship?

[surfhb]

Im convinced half the marriages that do survive to be healthy ones are attributed to a good sex life.....PERIOD!!

[bulrush]

I think it all depends on how you feel about sex. If he is small, then he should make up for it in other departments, with his other body parts. (That's what women on other forums say.)

For me, sex is not just for physical fun, but for emotional bonding, so sex is very important to me.

Out of all my best quality relationships, the sex was good, and contributed to the quality and my happiness. Of all my relationships that failed, they failed when the sex was not there. So, it varies for everyone, but for me, sex is a big part of it.

[curiousgurl29]

Thank you to everyone for your response. Can I just say how amazing it is to be able to have this forum to vent on?? I mean this are issues that I really can't talk about with my girlfriends or family, so it is so wonderful to have a space to do so. Anyway, to update, I told the guy I am dating that I am not totally over my ex-boyfriend. He was suprisingly very cool about it! He had a long-time girlfriend for five years and they broke up 1 year ago. He told me it was very difficult to get over her, also. He was very understanding. Right now, I am just happy being single for a while until I figure things out.

I agree with the responses that sex is not the most important part of a romantic relationship. However, it is very important! I think regular orgasms are important for women, too! I am trying to be honest from now on no matter what relationship I decide to be Sometimes it's really difficult though for me to be honest about the orgasm part! I know when my man is working his damnedest to get me off, I feel like I should just pretend. However, it's so much better to just say "honey, let's try this" or even, if need be, break out toys! I also need to be more open about oral sex, also, I think.

Again, big thanks to all of you for the advice.

[VincenzoG91]

Women tend to fake orgasms when men fake the foreplay.

[SHE_SO_FRESH]

Girl, you should not feel like you have to apologize for your preferences. If sex is a big deal for you, then you deserve to get what you want. You would be totally unfair to your self and to your ex if you accepted his proposal, this could lead to infidelity in your relationship in the future.

Although he is a great guy, hes just not the guy for you, that's all.

My advice: Never settle!

[Mathias]

Thank you to everyone for your response. Can I just say how amazing it is to be able to have this forum to vent on?? I mean this are issues that I really can't talk about with my girlfriends or family, so it is so wonderful to have a space to do so. Anyway, to update, I told the guy I am dating that I am not totally over my ex-boyfriend. He was suprisingly very cool about it! He had a long-time girlfriend for five years and they broke up 1 year ago. He told me it was very difficult to get over her, also. He was very understanding. Right now, I am just happy being single for a while until I figure things out.

I agree with the responses that sex is not the most important part of a romantic relationship. However, it is very important! I think regular orgasms are important for women, too! I am trying to be honest from now on no matter what relationship I decide to be Sometimes it's really difficult though for me to be honest about the orgasm part! I know when my man is working his damnedest to get me off, I feel like I should just pretend. However, it's so much better to just say "honey, let's try this" or even, if need be, break out toys! I also need to be more open about oral sex, also, I think.

Again, big thanks to all of you for the advice.

When you get the right guy, telling him these things won't be difficult.

[Dependable]

i have has some issues with this. as sex is not the most important it still remains a huge issue. my girl friend want more sex then i want to have, horrible problem to have i know, but its true. i feel like my sex life is reducing and hers is increasing, i feel we should only have sex 2-3 times a week, where she is 1-2 times daily. sometimes i just cant do that.

when we first meet, about 2 years ago the sexual chemisty was great, and like any new relationship we had sex very often, today we live togeather and alot has changed, i am still attracted to her, but i do not need sex that often, she wants things to be like when we first meet. so there i am, how to convience her that i am still very intrested in the relationship, but just do not need that much sex

[doppelgaenger]

Are eggs and flour necessary to bake a cake?

Christ.

[Dependable]

30 she is 21; i am what i am; its its a low sex drive, then its a low sex drive. she says she is happy but we have peaks and valleys. strangely enough smoking weed has helped alot with our sex life as it is a natural "viagra" for me, i think it helps me relax, anywaz i understand how sex is a huge part of a relationship and i often ask my partner how i can help make it better for her, honesty is probly the first step in helping keep the romance alive.

[surfhb]

1 -2 times a day is a little unrealistic. In a marriage, with a child and both parties working, once or twice a week was the norm.

[Junket]

Are eggs and flour necessary to bake a cake?

Christ.

Not if you're vegan.

[Dependable]

what pisses me off is she judges our sex life everytime we do not have "orgasmic" session, that usually tends to piss me off to the point of smoking a joint and doing it right, then i hear no complaints. she has told me i was the best sex of her life and she was mine, the problem lies in trying to make every session as good as that.

When we were first dating it was easy, we had such great chemistry, i was smoking out alot then too, now sometimes it feels diffrent or plain. gotta try and help keep that spark alive, We are lucky becuase we both want to keep up a healthy sex life and are willing to work it out

[Rachel O.]

Intimacy is a huge part of a successful relationship but certainly not the most important.

[IndiReloaded]

Not if you're vegan.

Have you ever eaten vegan baking? Bleh.

Yes, good sex is important for romance. You don't mention a committed relationship, which requires much more.

[Gratedwasabi]

Not if you're vegan.

Well, technically the flour is still necessary. So.. blowjobs, maybe?