Well after reading some posts on this forum, I think I figured out what was going on. I was enlightened by this post: "Which is exactly what happens. She either pushes you away or pushes your buttons enough that you finally start to treat her the way she thinks she deserves."

I think that is what happened, because there were a couple of times when I told her that I think she's pushing me away or that she likes to cause all the chaos. Wow! I'm glad I figured this out. It helps put things into perspective.