Originally Posted by
MerryH
Wow, OP, that's rough.
But you know what? You can't help her. You tried, but she's got some issues, and she needs help from someone more qualified than you. Also, you need some help right now, too. You left your job, moved to a strange place, you left your finances in someone else's hands, etc. I mean, you ****ed yourself. Fix it. Get yourself un-entangled financially and then see if you want to still be with her. You could start by making some phone calls to those joint credit cards to ask how you'd go about getting your name off of them.
Or, you could own some credit cards and be responsible with them and not ever let someone else have control over them. Are you blaming the credit card for your mistake? Kind of sounds like it.
Thanks to Merry, also Vince, for actually turning this thread from 'blame oriented' into 'solution oriented'.
I agree, OP. You know you messed up (duh or you wouldn't be posting). Question now is: what are you going to do about it?
HINT - beating yourself up over how stupid you've been isn't going to move your situation forward. Sure, kick yourself in the pants but in a productive way.
Good luck. Ignore the negativity on the site. They are here for their own issues.
Last edited by IndiReloaded; 17-06-11 at 03:33 AM.
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