Age old question....

[vampiress]

Not to Snoop! do you know why?!
If you're worried about something in a relationship you should confront your partner..... unless it's your father

[Illusional]

why would i bother snooping when i can go straight to the source and find out for myself.


raverboy

[Illusional]

...it also shows a lack of trust if you gotta snoop... BO

raverboy

[Bo]

Is it still called snooping if you're just 'casually browsing'

[Bo]

Not to Snoop! do you know why?!
If you're worried about something in a relationship you should confront your partner..... unless it's your father

Yes, yes, i know but ppl lie....even if it's not a big deal.

[vampiress]

Yes, yes, i know but ppl lie....even if it's not a big deal.

OK, now you're confusing me! We're gonna need some details.... Is it NOT a big deal for you or him? Sometimes we "women" make a big deal out of nothing... and sometimes it's the other way around.

[Illusional]

Is it still called snooping if you're just 'casually browsing'

so if you put yourself at the other end, how do you feel about him reading your emails and checking your cell?


raverboy

[Bo]

OK, now you're confusing me! We're gonna need some details.... Is it NOT a big deal for you or him? Sometimes we "women" make a big deal out of nothing... and sometimes it's the other way around.

He lied, but it wouldn't have been such a big deal had he told me the truth when i asked him about 'it'(multiple things) previously. His facebook was open so i looked at it and saw that he lied.

so if you put yourself at the other end, how do you feel about him reading your emails and checking your cell?


raverboy

I said before, i couldn't care less. He can read it all day everyday if he wants. I'm not hiding anything.

[vampiress]

He lied, but it wouldn't have been such a big deal had he told me the truth when i asked him about 'it'(multiple things) previously. His facebook was open so i looked at it and saw that he lied.

It is a big deal when he lies... trust me. Ask him directly.....

[sadie_genie]

Usually when ur dating someone, you know who they talk to/hang around/associate with, why would it be such a big deal unless there's something to hide?

There shouldn't be anything to hide in a relationship. But out of respect for your partner, I don't think you should snoop.

[Kyrina]

Initially dont snoop but if their behaviour changes and they say it doesnt then tell them how they have changed, if they continue to deny it then snoop why stick up with a lying cheating scumbag ....Reason he lied, changed so i did snoop and it was all i wanted you to find out after i confronted him with it and hey if they aint got the basketballs to own up they arent worth poop.

[Bo]

It is a big deal when he lies... trust me. Ask him directly.....

Oh, i told him. We had plans for the day to hang out by the water and drink with his friends. I was trying to wait for the day to be over to ask him about it but he noticed i was being a bit quiet and then he flipped out when i asked him. His only defense was that i looked at his shit <---- lame. Nonetheless i kept it together and when we got back to his place, i left without him knowing. He said sorry, but then when i kept pressing the issue of him lying and why he lied, he's been a total dick about it and real wishy washy, not giving me real answers. He says i'm gonna get over it and that's what he's banking on and it's pissing me off that he's not taking me seriously. I've haven't talked him much since a couple unsuccessful conversations about it he fails to see why i'm pissed off. He texted me saying he misses me and doesn't feel right without me.

There shouldn't be anything to hide in a relationship. But out of respect for your partner, I don't think you should snoop.

That, i agree with. I told him i was sorry for looking but i'm not happy with what i found.

[Bo]

Some of the things he lied about happened a year ago and i'm pretty concerned about where our relationship is going since it's been two years and clearly he feels like it's ok to tell me little white lies. F*** that.

[vampiress]

A lie is a lie my friend, no matter how many colors we give it in order to get away with it....
Anyway, I think it's time to get serious. tell him that you're not gonna be bullied into submission.. you want SERIOUS answers.
But do it nicely (no ignoring calls or texts... just serious answers).... and for god's sake DO NOT SNOOP!

[VNLifegood]

You know. . . For me it was not to snoop.
For my wife, I let her have access to everything about me. My phone, whatever was left of my facebook, etc. She had access to my iphone, ipod, computer, etc.
I on the other hand did not really have access to anything of hers. Her phone I knew, but she really never let me hold onto it.
So at this point:
It depends on how serious you are. I think if you are in a serious relationship, you should trust your significant other enough to do without snooping. I could have gotten her facebook password and such from her, but I did not feel the need to have it.