Confused by her need for space in a serious relationship

[jormungand]

Ultimately, someone that loves you, will love you and wouldn't treat you this way. Remember that. A frank discussion needs to be had in order to get to the bottom of this. Hope that helps.



If s

That's exactly how i feel. I really just want to talk about this and understand why things changed for her. Obviously she's not giving me the time of day right now, so i'm backing off.

[jormungand]

Well, she finally ended things today.

After a week of no contact, I get an email saying that she knows this is hard, but she doesn't see things changing and that it's easier for her to ignore her emotions and be distant for some time.

Clearly she has already moved on, and most likely found someone else. Oh well.

[Andariel]

I am sorry to hear that,mate. There is probably someone else involved and she just didn't have the guts to tell you.

Someone who doesn't have the decency to be frank with you and does not even give you a solid reason for leaving you is not worth your time. You are better off without an immature girl by your side who is the sort of person to leave you without honoring what you had together by at least giving you a legitimate reason for the break up. She clearly does not respect you. Don't bother replying to her email-don't justify her behaviour with a response. Go No Contact and completely ignore her from now on: this will help you move on faster and am sure her ego will get very bruised as she is probably expecting that you will start desperately contacting her to ask her what you did wrong and she thinks you will try to win her back.

The best revenge is to move on with your life and be happy without her!

[jormungand]

I am sorry to hear that,mate. There is probably someone else involved and she just didn't have the guts to tell you.

Someone who doesn't have the decency to be frank with you and does not even give you a solid reason for leaving you is not worth your time. You are better off without an immature girl by your side who is the sort of person to leave you without honoring what you had together by at least giving you a legitimate reason for the break up. She clearly does not respect you. Don't bother replying to her email-don't justify her behaviour with a response. Go No Contact and completely ignore her from now on: this will help you move on faster and am sure her ego will get very bruised as she is probably expecting that you will start desperately contacting her to ask her what you did wrong and she thinks you will try to win her back.

The best revenge is to move on with your life and be happy without her!

Thanks. you have no idea how much that one paragraph is helping me right now.