Are we making progress with her libido? She recognizes it's down.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Because I want her to get back to a level of comfort with sex that is of quality, not quantity, and to fix her incorrect perceived tension meanwhile allow me to understand her needs fully. I still don't see how you think I am her "dog" - she puts in equal work, including affection, and the last few times we did have sex she actually initiated it.

Okay, then why are you here complaining?

The perceived tension is not incorrect. You want sex, and are sexually frustrated. That is going to create tension whether you think it does or not. You can't fix this for her; it must be natural. Just go on about your life, don't mention anything to do with sex, at all..ever. Hopefully, it will work itself out, but it definitely won't if you keep bringing it up. Why is that so ****ing hard for you to understand? Just shut the **** up, and live life. She sees that you're unhappy and she knows why, but if she's able to see that you're happy, without sex, then she will want it more. Like I suggested earlier, tell her you're not initiating sex anymore, so don't take your affection the wrong way, and start enjoying your life without sex.

[anonymousposter]

Okay, then why are you here complaining?

The perceived tension is not incorrect. You want sex, and are sexually frustrated. That is going to create tension whether you think it does or not. You can't fix this for her; it must be natural. Just go on about your life, don't mention anything to do with sex, at all..ever. Hopefully, it will work itself out, but it definitely won't if you keep bringing it up. Why is that so ****ing hard for you to understand? Just shut the **** up, and live life. She sees that you're unhappy and she knows why, but if she's able to see that you're happy, without sex, then she will want it more. Like I suggested earlier, tell her you're not initiating sex anymore, so don't take your affection the wrong way, and start enjoying your life without sex.

You're the best Straight forward in my face. THANK YOU!

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Don't thank me. Just do it. It sounds like things could be really great with you two, just step back and give a chance to take shape.