Broken Trust

[hopelessly123]

I did tell him that and also asked if there was anything else he was keeping from me, which he assures me there is not..to which I responded, why should I believe you...?

And he said.....I'll do anything to regain your trust

I just don't know if it's possible

[hopelessly123]

I did tell him that and also asked if there was anything else he was keeping from me, which he assures me there is not..to which I responded, why should I believe you...?

And he said.....I'll do anything to regain your trust

I just don't know if it's possible

Sorry, this was to searock

[hopelessly123]

I understand little white lies like telling your teacher the dog ate your homework. But this is a lie to his own girlfriend whom he "loves" and loving relationships are based on trust. The fact that he covered up his porn habit for a long time, took great lengths to hide evidence, and lied proved that it wasn't just a little fib. He would have continued lying till the day he gets caught red handed. Imagine if he did something really bad....like got drunk at a bar and made out with some chick just once.... i doubt he would come rushing home to tell his girlfriend. He would have kept this secret even more hidden. It just proves that he doesn't really feel guilty for his actions, the mentality of "if she doesn't know, it won't hurt her"

Anytime he has ever kept anything from me, his excuse is always that he didn't want to hurt me....ugh! Never anything this extensive though, in the past they really were little white lies...

[smackie9]

I see where you are coming from.....this has changed everything you ever thought about your relationship, and him......you are in shock...I would be. It could just be a matter of immaturity....he did handle this thing irresponsibly. Kinda makes ya wonder what other surprises are in store.

[smackie9]

I think it's more of a behavior problem. It might be something he has always used while growing up. Since it has always worked for him, he feels it's ok because he has never had any repercussions from his lying. But now being an adult, it doesn't work that way no more......he needs to learn that lying, is not acceptable behavior, because it is not necessary, especially in your relationship. He needs to "break" this bad habit of his.