Mmmm...cat poop. Well, it is awkward but its life I suppose.
@Mis. I'm pretty certain that she likes me and I like her. And, we both expressed love to one another and we even discussed marriage. Our lovemaking was true love making; it wasn't just sex. So, those emotions have been "put out there." Those things don't just disappear into the ethers.
Now, there's distance, emotionally, between us because of the split. I don't "reach out" because she is still likely to use the opportunity to play immature manipulative games. And, it is not right--when she calls it quits, then I have to respect that--and she did for the right reasons. I'm very nice to to her, very polite. I make her laugh and smile and she often sits next to me in meetings.
She still likes me. I still like her. I'm dating other people. I'm sure that she will date other people. We might, one day, return to each other or we might not. Probably, I am too old for her; but in many ways we work very well together. She was a very important part of my life.
I find it easy to meet other very high quality, intelligent, and attractive women. If one thing is true, the women I've met recently have shown complete appreciation for my qualities--and that is a nice change from the ex-gf's often immature treatment of me. That said, I don't feel any drive to get with the new women physically because once one has made love to a women, the idea of just having sex is not overly appealing. I don't even feel the drive to start over in finding a mate.
I show no emotional response to the loss of the ex-gf. My friends say, "You sure took the loss of the ex-gf suprisingly well, Cameron." But deep inside there is this sense that something was torn from me. I invested so much emotion into our relationship (more than she invested in me, I think, but the point is irrelevant) that I just don't find that I have the interest in starting over. But, I will start over because being alone forever is needless self-punishment. Doing nothing is not an option.