only from penetration? This seems backwards

[MarcoPolo7]

Us? Is someone forcing you to reply?
Ummm, are you the board nanny? Are you allowed to speak for everyone? And what do you mean by "our opinions"? You are essentally the only one responding and I think it is clear your answers are not thoughful.
You don't need to respond if you don't want- in fact I'd prefer it. If no one knowledgable with some insight and empathy responds then fine. But you aren't doing anything but one liners that betray your own set of assumptions and lack of reading comprehension.

"But it's not the same for everyone, some women (like the OP's wife) can clearly orgasm ONLY via penetration alone"

Did you pull that out of your behind? Or do you have some references? I am interested to see if there is someone like that besides my wife OK? Not you? Then move along.

[smackie9]

"Who cares if other people aren't like your wife?!?!? Just be glad that she is satisfied and stop making her feel like she is strange!! "

Best advice ever.

[searock]

I am interested to see if there is someone like that besides my wife OK?

Why on earth are you interested in that!?!? Can't you just be happy that she's getting her orgasms and having fun with you?! If the problem is not that you think she's acting and not actually orgasming, then why the hell do you care how it happens?!

[Steelers<3]

WOW. Some posts are just plain stupid, this one actually made me laugh. Sorry OP, not trying to be offensive, but everyone thus far has given you pretty good advice. Let me try to lay it out there without some of the rude additional comments that I think you provoked and deserved.

Take me for example: I cannot/have not ever had an orgasm from penetration, even with clitoral stimulation. In your views, this makes me a somewhat typical woman. But, I love sex. It feels great, the intimacy is great, etc. Now, you said youself in your post at the end that you DO NOT think she is faking it. Any why would she be? She tells you when she doesn't get there, you can probably feel her tighten/flex around you when she does orgasm, she probably gets a little more wet, etc. If those signs are there, she is having an orgasm. If you don't trust that your WIFE of 15+ years is telling you the truth, you have more serious problems.

Lastly, WHAT IS THE BIG DEAL. Say you actually convinced her to go to the doctor. Say she has some rare condition where nerves in her clitoris just don't send the right signals, etc, and clitoral stimulation just DOESN'T do it for her. Will you leave her over it? I honestly do think that you are probably pressing her with all of this, you are making HER feel inadequite, strange, deformed, disfigured, etc. Because from the sound of it, you won't drop it.

Do you like your balls played with? My ex hated that. Do you like your asshole licked? Do you like a finger in your ass? I mean technically men have a g spot there too just as a woman "should" in her clitoris per your standards, and if you don't like it... Why are you holding so much judgement against your wife who is just not into oral sex.

I just don't see what the big deal is whether she likes it or she doesn't. It doesn't make her any different of a perosn, and you've known all this probably before you married her. I would be seriously pissed if my boyfriend came at me like there was something WRONG with me because I only came one way. I can't come from penetration but he never makes me feel stupid for it.