Originally Posted by
haxan
To be exclusive in that kind of relationship, to me, is asking a lot.
Not sure what the guy in this situation wants out of his life. It sounds like he's living the bachelor lifestyle to the fullest. If so, I have no problem being this woman's fwb, but I would be dating, regularly, looking at other options. Who knows, maybe he keeps lots of other women's dishes after they bring him dinner.
I don't know, maybe the OP is a one in a thousand girl, but fwb is just that, "f" w/b. No reason or incentive to be exclusive for me.
Still confused. I'll ask again: what is it she isn't giving him? I just don't see how this is any different from a dating situation in terms of sex and companionship. If things evolve such that they decide to build a life together, can't they change their mind later? What's the hangup on the 'exclusive' label, which really just means neither should be sleeping around with other people. I feel like I'm missing something here. Do people date with the intention of getting 'serious' right away? Expect to move in together after 3, 6, 12 months. Children soon after? What is the issue?
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