Dating websites

[toknow]

I'm talking about the kind of love that never fails, that's hardly infatuation.

I just don't see how you can love some one, and want someone else at the same time. If you do that, then first you don't love either of those people, second they are to you very much alike since to you they are pretty similar, as neither one of them can negate the other.

[TheCafeTerrace]

So in your view it's not real love if you can find any other human beings sexually attractive?

[toknow]

"So in your view it's not real love if you can find any other human beings sexually attractive?"

Correct.

How can you divide yourself. If you are in love with more than one person, you might as well say you are in love with a thousand girls, what's the difference, really. Can you be in love with a thousand women. But, there is a huge difference between, one and two. One is unique. Two, makes non of the two unique. What does true mean. That means it's one of a kind. It's either true or it's not, there is no in between.

[TheCafeTerrace]

"So in your view it's not real love if you can find any other human beings sexually attractive?"

Correct.

How can you divide yourself. If you are in love with more than one person, you might as well say you are in love with a thousand girls, what's the difference, really.

That's not what you said - what you said was that if you were in love you cannot find someone else sexually attractive. Finding someone sexually attractive is not the same as love.

Of course you can love someone while still finding other people sexually attractive.

[toknow]

No. I answered you question that it's not real love if you can find any other human beings sexually attractive, and then elaborated further on true love.

By, saying you can love someone and still find other people sexually attractive you are contradicting the definition of true love. True love is complete, it doesn't lack. You will not need to look elsewhere to get your needs fulfilled. Otherwise you aren't talking about true love.

Can your soul be in two places at the same time?

[TheCafeTerrace]

That's ridiculous. Sure you don't "need" to find anyone else attractive, but that doesn't mean you won't. You're just throwing around fairytale clichés to prove something which isn't true. It's like saying you can't find anyone else witty, because you should get all the humour you need from the person you love. Bollocks.

[toknow]

It's saying that their humor will be unique to you, and you will recognize that.

I am speaking in absolutes, love is absolute. There is nothing subtle about it.

[TheCafeTerrace]

Yeah, I'm not saying the person you love isn't unique and sexy in a very special way... but that doesn't mean I won't also be quite attentive while watching Anne Hathaway's arse-shots in Batman.

[toknow]

"but that doesn't mean I won't also be quite attentive while watching Anne Hathaway's arse-shots in Batman"

Then you can't see the uniqueness in your loved one. And if you can't see it, you can't truly love them. You would notice the subtleties of their shape on such scale that they would look completely different and unique to you.

To better help you understand if you did see your loved one as "unique" in the way we are discussing, Anne Hathaway's "arse" would look to you like an alien's arse. Would you be attracted to that?

[TheCafeTerrace]

Ok, I'm obviously not getting anywhere here. I shall leave it to the fair judgement of anyone who reads this whether or not they think it's possible to find true love yet still appreciate the beautiful form of Anne Hathaway's perfectly-sculpted arse.



(Appologies for derailing the thread here confused2012.)

[Sovereign88]

He probably turns the porn off when he hears you approaching because he is uncomfortable with you watching him masturbate. But you should just ask him if you really want to know.

I don't think your being uncomfortable with his many accounts is unreasonable. You have a right to establish standards of what you are comfortable with and what you are not...Plus he may end up meeting someone else on one of those accounts or their conversations about sex may turn personal and then he may wind up having an emotional/fantasy affair which can be just as bad as a physical affair.

I think you should ask him to close his accounts down and research his fetishes with you as you mentioned, that way sex will be something that brings the two of you together instead of driving you apart.

Hope this helps.

[hp1990]

I would definitely be worried about this. Not so much the porn thing, it's a bit odd but you just need to tell him not to look at it when you're about. The dating website thing is weird though, I mean everyone has their secrets, you just happen to have found out about this. It is odd, but different people have different boundaries in relationships. Some people might be cool with it, some might not. I wouldn't be. Just tell him how it is, and if you're worried about what he's been writing, ask him to show you. You'll soon know from his reaction whether you need to be worried or not!