Need Advice

[bcgirl]

Vancouver is the most expensive place to live in North America. Normal ppl that aren't multi-millionaires will have a very tough time raising kids in this city. For a crappy house u are looking at a million bucks to own. I love the city but unfortunately gotta rethink about moving away or into the suburbs... The Olympics held here in 2010 certainly helped increased everything 10 folds.

[tw425]

i think you are a mess for even consider this internet thing as serious.

and having a baby you should be for real mature and done with dating around.
cause your child need to be safe and need structure.
not different men that his mother will bring in every time someone show her a little bitty of kindness

Once you have a child that bullshit of dating here and there is over.
cause you will bring the wrong person around and they will abuse your kid when you dont see it.

If you wanted to mess around you should have use protection so you could not get pregnant.
cause im shore you knew from the start how your bf is!
so to bring those stuff up like its all new for you is stupid.

Its not about what you feel and want anymore but about what is good for your kid

And anyways you should take tie alone if you breakup and not jump from men to men.
after your break up.
stop thinking about your pussy instead of your child.

Do you know how many child molester and sick men sits on the internet just to get some stupid naive
vulnerable woman like you?!!!!!!!!!!

And as a mother you are very vulnerable, so you should be more careful and mature about what you do with your life right now\


I think you should stay single and focus on your child and family and freinds.

Whoa there! Well aren't we just a tad bit harsh! lol I'm well aware of all the crazies out there. My "friend" is not like that at all. If I didnt trust him with my child then I wouldnt even consider him as a dam friend. I didnt give much background on myself so here goes!

I am 26, full time job, NO welfare, food stamps or any government aid. I work at the university where I graduated from, with TWO degrees. A B.S. and MBA! So please dont get it twisted. I'm not vunerable by a long shot. As far as the pregnancy, it happened unexpectedly. True enough I should have used protecting but in all honesty up until that time we were together for over 3 years and I honestly thought I could not get pregnant. So nip that crazy talk in the bud. And I didnt mess around on my bf, lol its HIS BABY! I didnt have sex with nobody, it was nothing but conversation with this friend. So relax

[tw425]

We cannot make the decision for you, but here's what we know about your "boyfriend": he was/is a drug dealer, he does not sound responsible, he sounds immature, he wasn't there for you when you needed him. I mean, the only way to go is up, right? It doesn't sound like this bf really adds anything to your life. I don't think you love him, I think you need him. There's a difference. I think you need stability, and I don't think you really love your bf.

Just think about all that.

Thank you for your unbiased opinion. I do love him, he is my child's father, I just think that I am no longer in love with him. I think we are moving in two different directions in life. He's just now realizing what he needs to do to better himself, but I've been telling him this the whole relationship. As of now, I feel like I'm just scared to hurt his feelings but in the same breathe I dont want to settle. I really want to take the risk and see what will transpire with me and the friend. And of course my child is my number priority in this.

[tw425]

Dump your BF. You have support from your mother and grandmother, which is AWESOME...I wish I had that. Be single for a while and maybe pursue things with this "friend".

Lol, thanks for the reply. Straight and to the point!

[tw425]

Umm...so u decide to bring a new life into the world just because? U knew things with the bf was bad before u got pregnant but u got preggers anyways probably in hopes that the relationship may improve...of course it doesn't because babies do not magically make a relationship better but adds more stress to an already stressful relationship. My advice is to take care of your baby right now and to forget about all this boy drama. This bf is obviously not good for the baby because he is a drug dealer and would u want to put your baby's safety in danger? What good can come out of a kid with a drug dealer as a father? Lose the loser of a bf and keep your hole shut. U r probably one of those girls who constantly needs a man in her life and so u tell yourself u are in love with this "friend" because u r pretty much a single mother with a shitty bf and u want Prince Charming to come to the rescue and so u desperately want this man to be the baby's daddy....reality check. ..this ain't gunna work under these circumstances. U lay in the mess u created...just a shame another bastard child has been brought in this world

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**** you for calling my baby a bastard child, if I'm not with the father does not mean his father wont be there for HIM. so you can kick rocks with that statment. And No I did not get pregnant on purpose. That was the LAST thing I was planning to do. I have enough sense to know that A baby will NOT KEEP A MAN! and thats why I'm the only one of my friends that had a baby at such a late age. Everyone else I know had babies in highschool!!!! I never planned on the baby, but once I was pregnant I knew I was not getting rid of my baby.

I dont need nobody to come :rescue: me or my baby lol just because your not with the father of your child doesnt mean all hell is gonna break loose. sometimes shit doesnt work out. simple....i wouldnt want to be with him and remain unhappy!!!! My bf doesnt benefit me in anyway, simply because he cant benefit from himself.! he has to get his shit together in order for shit to be better.

you sound like a bitter hag, that cant make babies btw.