I think that you need to try and think of the other people in your relationships as well as your own desires/needs. I have noticed that the majority of people on here say you need to look after yourself first but I don't believe that is the answer. If you consider the other people and what your actions will do to them and put that before your own needs you will make progress and heal wounds. Sure things are going to be hard but don't try and change other people to fix things, you can only change yourself and your actions.
That said you still need a respect for yourself and need to realize you also deserve someone who will put you before themselves and their own comfort. This may not be something you think you have with either of the men in your life in which case I suggest you tell them as communication is the key to change. But remember YOU can't change THEM so make the changes in your life, talk about it and then give them a chance. If it doesn't work then you know that is the way it will continue in all likelyhood.
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13-02-13, 06:44 AM #16
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13-02-13, 06:50 AM #17
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You have got some problems lady..
Not sure anyone on here can help you...
You might take yourself out of the picture and look at it as a story and then evaluate the mess you made.
For its a big mess that you should never have started, and especially restarted..
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13-02-13, 07:37 AM #18
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Leave C alone to be with his 19 year old GF. Leave your husband because you don't love him.
Once the divorce is finalized seek counselling for your issues, because it is clear you do not care about the feelings of others, and have no problem pulling strings as long as it benefits you. You are not fit to be in a relationship, and not fit to destroy "C" and his new relationship either.
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14-02-13, 08:58 AM #19
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She is still making excuses, still in denial so this is a waste of time. Some people never learn. OP i also recommend counselling but only if you are ready to accept full responsibility here and face up to what you have done. You should have went for marriage counselling a lobg time ago. Maybe it is too late now to save your marriage but it is not too late to fix your issues and your very immature way of dealing with marital/personal problems. Just remember an affair is NEVER the answer. It only makes the whole mess 1000 times worse...
