Confused...

[michelle23]

Do you also believe or has your "scientific research" concluded that homosexuals can't actually be attracted to men too? That all black people are hoodlums,(add any other general prejudicious view here) What you believe you tried to shove down the throat of the op when she obviously doesn't adhere to your own beliefs. You can believe what you want... It doesn't make it apply to the person's whose thread you are addressing.

No I do not believe any of the above crap you just spat at me. When it comes to love/sex/relationships-I am allowed to have my own opinion and if you do not like it-ignore it.

[toknow]

I honestly believe that people who are not naturally monogamous never experience what real love actually is.

Completely agree with you michelle23. I'm really glad to see another person thinks that.

Most people don't want to acknowledge this. They think they'll be much happier and more fulfilled having multitude of "loves", but that actually shows they've never truly loved. True love gives you more than enough love, so you won't have to bee looking anywhere else.

[michelle23]

Thank you toknow. I respect other peoples opinions and don't pick on them if they disagree with me. I don't care what other people do or what they believe-I am not going to change my opinion just because someone told me to..

And the fact that the OP's bf has been sneaking around-tells me he does not really love her

[michelle23]

A need for multiple partners=insecurity issues to me

[toknow]

Lol...Yes and the fact that they had a threesome tells me none of them had anything to do with love.

[michelle23]

OP it is your decision what you do next. He has already shown you that you cannot trust him and lied to your face when you asked him for an explanation. Follow your instincts and do what you feel is right.

Maybe an open relationship would suit you though because you are bi? That is something you can figure out for yourself.

[Wakeup]

Jumping in a den of vipers you don't expect to get bitten?

Thank you toknow. I respect other peoples opinions and don't pick on them if they disagree with me. I don't care what other people do or what they believe-I am not going to change my opinion just because someone told me to..

And the fact that the OP's bf has been sneaking around-tells me he does not really love her

Here's the bottomline You are welcome to your opinion however; Your "belief" (and blanket statement) that: "if he loved you he wouldn't share you" is incorrect to those people who are not monogamous. Op is not a monogamous person so your belief does not apply to her or anyone who isn't of your belief. Just as one's religious views would not apply to an athiest.

@ OP: Here is a suggestion based on your particular scenerio and not on not on my own "beliefs." Leave him for cheating on you or, discusss with him what is and is not acceptable in your tri-ads and if he can't adhere to the rules then dump him. Personally, I doubt he didn't know the rules and if he didn't, then he should have asked if it would be acceptable to you if he went one-on-one with these women who joined you two as a third. At this point he has betrayed you or at the very least has tried so discuss that fact with him and then decide from there what you need to do. Prejudicial "beliefs" aside.

[cr8]

toknow, I learned my lesson!!

[Wakeup]

toknow, I learned my lesson!!

So... does this mean you've now broken up with your douche of a boyfriend and have gone monogamous?

[toknow]

Glad to know...lol...excuse the pun.