Moving away to college, want to break up, need advice :/ (lgbt)

[surfhb2]

I have family that met quite young and are still together 40years later and very happy so i think age is irrelevant. You either grow together or grow apart and age is a really stupid reason to break up with someone.

40 years? Might as well be talking about another universe.....different times

Didn't tell him to give up....just weigh your options because now is the time for him to concentrate on improving himself. Moving in with a women when you're about to start an academic career is a poor choice in my opinion.

It's cliche but if it was meant to be, it's meant to be

Regardless, he wants his freedom right now so it's all a moot point.....I'd say that's fairly normal for a 20 year old. Age is a HUGE factor in all this. Find out who you are a person before a heavy commitment. Back then, marriage was a case of survival....we're in different times now

[pcmaster]

Better try how it goes for like a year than decide break up or not. Distance is good for relationship.

[basilandthyme]

Taffyjoe, I agree with the idea of giving the long distance thing a try. You might find that you miss her terribly and can't bear to let the relationship go. Or you might find that you don't miss her at all and that the relationship has run it's course.

[Woods]

Nothing wrong with trying the long distance thing. Four years is a long time to throw away if you still feel like you love the girl. But you know, this can be a normal part of growing up. You're entering a new stage in your life and it may be that this relationship doesn't fit with how you picture that. When you've been with someone from a young age sometimes one person will outgrow the relationship and it's time to move on. Neither of you have done anything wrong and it doesn't make you a bad person. It just happens.

The grass may not be greener. But fear of that isn't a good enough reason to stay when your gut is telling you it's time to go try it.