Keeping myself in check?

[Indestructible]

Well, for this particular girl, I get that. At least, the rational side of me does. There's just a smaller irrational part of me that still thinks I can win her over. Anyway, I question your whole "seven second" thing. I've know of plenty of couples that knew each other for a while before they started dating. Heck, even this girl I'm into knew both her previous exes for several months before she dated them. If "most girls" write guys off fairly quickly, then shouldn't none of those couples have gotten together?

Anyway, I have to believe I can "win someone over in time", because people never "like" me when they first meet me, and girls are certainly never attracted to me that quickly. So if you're right, then I'm more or less doomed to never find someone, because it's not possible for me to attract someone that quickly. I'm an "acquired taste".

[smackie9]

If she rejects you one more time please just accept it.

[Indestructible]

I have no intention of asking her out again. I understand that she trusts me not to approach her about this stuff again and I have no intention of betraying that trust. I'm just struggling with the rational part of my brain that understands this and wants to enjoy a friendship with her, and the less rational side that wants to win her over.

I also get that if she were to change her mind about me, it'd be up to her to come to me about it. I understand that that probably won't ever happen, but it's hard not to wonder "What if?". What if there's something I could say or do to win her over? I dunno. It's just a bit of an internal struggle. I seem to want two different things with this girl.

[Empty Road]

What if there's something I could say or do to win her over?

Oh Indestructible, when will you realize attraction doesn't work that way? It's not what you say or do, it's who you are that matters. Everyone has a certain type that they are attracted to and unless you are that, there is little chance anything will happen. Just imagine if a girl you find unattractive or ugly trying to think of something to say or do to change your mind. She wouldn't have much of a chance if there are better options out there for you, right? This female co-worker of yours like men with certain qualities, unless you change a lot then your just holding on a hopeless fantasy. And even if you manage to change a lot about yourself, she won't notice it if she sees you often. Only a loooong time apart would allow her to reassess who you are and see if you have become the type of guy she wants.

[Indestructible]

I know, I know. Like I said, that's just the irrational side of me that won't stop making a little bit of "noise" in my head. I dunno. It just bugs me, because as it is, I don't find girls that I have much in common with at all, and here, I find someone that I have more things in common with than I can count, but I'm not "attractive", and she'd rather be with boneheaded "cool guys" that end up cheating on her.

Going in a different direction, I'd like to ask about something that I'm just a tad bit puzzled by. A couple weeks ago, I was joking around with this girl a little bit, and she apparently "snapped" at me. I didn't take it that way at all, I just figured it was just her being her, and I laughed it off and went about my business, but since then, she's randomly brought it up and apologized to me about it, like, 3-4 times already (the most recent being a couple days ago, when she said "Again, I'm so sorry about snapping at you the other day, I still feel really bad about that"). I mean, is she expecting me to say something in response, or what? Honestly, I don't have anything to say about it. It's not like I had any kind of reaction to it when it happened (again, I didn't even feel like she "snapped" at me), and really, if she didn't continue to bring it up, I wouldn't have thought about it at all.