Is my girlfriend lying?

[Loundar]

Goodluck to the unborn baby. That's all I have to say.

I don't understand where you got that from. What did I say to make you think she is an unfit mother? She's a very loving person and is great with her kids. We both don't drink or do drugs. She had a bad upbringing and ended up in a bad relationship. She's not the first and won't be the last. She's different now and realises he filled her head with lies. She's not a confused little girl any more.

[Loundar]

She's f uckin lying. there is your answer.

Thanks for your f uckin opinion on the matter.

[basilandthyme]

In all honesty, I expected people to tell me to stop comparing myself to him etc. I didn't expect her to be thought so little of over this.

But you're not comparing yourself to him - your girlfriend is the one doing the comparing. This is why posters are looking at how your girlfriend's mind works.

[Loundar]

PS as for me being a 'meal ticket' you couldn't be more wrong. Her nor her kids get any of my money and we are going halfers on everything with our baby. She dumped her last boyfriend who she said she could've easily used for money because he was a naive guy. You've done nothing but insult me and her but you know very little about us except the tiny bit I've told you. She doesn't need my money. She has plenty. You're not a relationship expert and you're just a sad little person who posts on forums all day. And yes I do realise I'm just assuming that as well. See how stupid it is now?

[Loundar]

But you're not comparing yourself to him - your girlfriend is the one doing the comparing. This is why posters are looking at how your girlfriend's mind works.

I asked her the questions though. It wasn't even to compare. I'm secure in myself and don't care whether he was better looking or better in bed. So are millions of other guys. I just asked those questions to try and make sense of why she put up with it. She had a horrible mother and I'm pretty sure she just fell for the first guy to show her love. They got together when she was 15. But she's older now and realises he was taking advantage of her. She realises she was fooled. I guess I just find it hard to fully understand what was going through her head while she was with him but I'm interested in this sort of thing so tried to get to the bottom of it. Out of curiosity only. It won't change anything between me and her. A lot of the comments made are just laughable (not your one). Everyone is so assuming and judgemental on this site lol.

[basilandthyme]

You say your girlfriend had a horrible mother. And now I'm going to take the risk of assuming that she had an absent (or disengaged) father - would I be right?

[Boisdevie]

Everyone is so assuming and judgemental on this site lol.

We try to play to our strengths.

[Loundar]

You say your girlfriend had a horrible mother. And now I'm going to take the risk of assuming that she had an absent (or disengaged) father - would I be right?

Yes. She doesn't know who her father is.

[DalM0m]

It sounds like to me that you just don't like the fact that we don't care about marriage like you do and are trying to be offensive. Grow up.

I am a grown up. Thanks, but I appreciate your concern.

I don't give a flying fig whether you are a married or not.

If you come on to a message board & ask for advice, it's best to give all the facts in the initial question. By coming here & saying that you are concerned that she doesn't have the same level of feelings for you as she has or had for him at any point & if you are now saying that he's better looking & better in bed, clearly you have some underlying insecurities about this guy. He is also the father of her children. Spend some time as a student of human nature & you will see women have left guys like you to go running back to their bad boy EX when those EX have a lot less hold than her EX does.

I wasn't trying to judge you. My advice -- which you asked for -- was to be cautious & make sure your child was safe. Are you honestly going to sit here & tell me that you think letting a kid around a heroin addict is a GOOD idea?

[Loundar]

I am a grown up. Thanks, but I appreciate your concern.

I don't give a flying fig whether you are a married or not.

If you come on to a message board & ask for advice, it's best to give all the facts in the initial question. By coming here & saying that you are concerned that she doesn't have the same level of feelings for you as she has or had for him at any point & if you are now saying that he's better looking & better in bed, clearly you have some underlying insecurities about this guy. He is also the father of her children. Spend some time as a student of human nature & you will see women have left guys like you to go running back to their bad boy EX when those EX have a lot less hold than her EX does.

I wasn't trying to judge you. My advice -- which you asked for -- was to be cautious & make sure your child was safe. Are you honestly going to sit here & tell me that you think letting a kid around a heroin addict is a GOOD idea?

Can you quote where I said that he's going to be in this babies life in any way, shape or form? I've never said he would. He's not even been seen for over a year! He's either in jail or doing something to score his next hit. He is 100% gone!