After waiting for so long, I ditched her

[surfhb2]

Originally planned on 8, when I said that i was on the way (7.45~7.50) she said she needs til 8.30. Messaged her at 8.30, got a response of 'almost' by 9. By then I just said "Lol, I left. Sorry" pretty assholish of me i'll have to admit and I do feel like I should apologize, just giving it some extra time and thought.

Hmmmmm.....Not asshole at all! I would have waited to maybe 930 but shes a dumb bitch regardless. Do not contact her again

[michelle23]

StubbornOne, you handled it perfectly. **** that bitch.



Is your boyfriend driving aimlessly waiting for you to get ready with only sparse texts to let you know what's going on? If so, you're a true cunt. This girl is definitely a cunt.

lol no but most sundays im not ready on time when were going somewhere. He watches sports whilst waiting

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[UKRomantic]

I think you did right in a way.

She could have had the decency to let you know she was going to be later before 7:45 - Knowing full well you'd be on your way if you agreed at time of 8.

Waiting half an hour to text you back, when she knows full well you'd be sat outside waiting is really shitty. I would have been really annoyed too - What you all need to remember is this was feeling like he'd been stood up at this point.

[Starnique]

So she was in the shower and didn't jump out to check her messages....you could have left a voice message saying since she was running late you went ahead and grabbed a table and to meet you there. BUT instead you got owly and went home. You were both inconsiderate, but you more so. You acted childishly.

Maybe you should do an attitude check next time and remember that it's not wise to act out to teach someone a lesson...most people usually redeem themselves (and I'm sure she would have) with an apology and an explanation.

I'm with smackie on this one. I would be shocked and upset if a guy did that to me. Maybe she was in the shower. Yes, she should have on been time but shit happens. Me personally, I'm not going out looking any kind of way, especially with a guy I really liked and was trying my best to look good for.if he don't like it, then leave. That's just me. It was only one time. You acted stupid and bitchy. I could see if this was a pattern then yeah okay but you're still trying to impress one another and needless to say, I wouldnt talk to you either. That would have pissed me off big time. There's been a time when I had a date and I was late. I invited the guy in and he just chilled in the livingroom while I finished getting ready and when I came out, he was glad he waited.

It takes me more then fifteen min to get ready. To shower too? Yeah more then fifteen. Like I said, I'm not going out half done. It was only one time. I wouldnt give you any of my precious time if I was her.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Starnique and Michelle, this broad did not invite him in to hang out or watch sports. She did not communicate with him in a way that made it seem like she even wanted to see him. She was very vague and dismissive.

[surfhb2]

I'm with smackie on this one. I would be shocked and upset if a guy did that to me. Maybe she was in the shower. Yes, she should have on been time but shit happens. Me personally, I'm not going out looking any kind of way, especially with a guy I really liked and was trying my best to look good for.if he don't like it, then leave. That's just me. It was only one time. You acted stupid and bitchy. I could see if this was a pattern then yeah okay but you're still trying to impress one another and needless to say, I wouldnt talk to you either. That would have pissed me off big time. There's been a time when I had a date and I was late. I invited the guy in and he just chilled in the livingroom while I finished getting ready and when I came out, he was glad he waited.

It takes me more then fifteen min to get ready. To shower too? Yeah more then fifteen. Like I said, I'm not going out half done. It was only one time. I wouldnt give you any of my precious time if I was her.

Being not ready and inviting the guy is is totally different then have the guy hang on with no communication what so ever for half an hour. The girl is a flake...plain and simple.
I would have handled it differently but she deserves no apology much less another date. A real man would NEVER ( FUCCKING NEVER!!! ) allow this to happen to a girl on the first date. Dont fuccking pull your double standard card out of your asshole now please!! Get your ass into the shower and be on time! Jesus!

[HDBadger]

I'm pretty shocked at the posters siding with the girl.

If I was an hour late for a work meeting with limited communication about what I was doing, I'd be fired.

You did the right thing, OP. You absolutely do not have to put up with this girl's rudeness - and that's exactly what it is.

The only immature thing is her screwing around for an hour (!) and expecting you to tolerate it.

You dodged a bullet. Don't apologize and don't contact her again.

[HDBadger]

To add: Part of acting like an adult is showing up for commitments on time. This "she was in the shower" BS is laughable.

[dickriculous]

Question for those defending the woman: How long is OP supposed to wait for her? He gave her an extra half hour (not even counting the first hour and a half extra he gave her) and heard nothing from her. Really? He's an asshole/childish for leaving at that point? Someone tells you 7, then changes to 8:30 at the last possible moment and STILL doesn't make it on time, leaves you waiting for an extra half hour and he even went so far as to try to contact her before he gave up on her and left.

Sorry but I have more important shit to do with my life than sit around waiting on someone who has no respect for my time. Anyone who thinks I am obligated to do so needs to pull their head out of their ass and stop calling other people childish until they've taken a good long look at themselves.

Basil is right, this chick needed to learn that the world doesn't revolve around her, and now she's refusing to accept that lesson. Too bad, maybe life will force it on her another way down the road.

OP, if she doesn't even have the decency to apologize for dicking you around and wasting your evening then why do you even want anything to do with her? Do you really want a woman who thinks she's entitled to just piss your time away like it has no value?

[TheStubbornOne]

I'm glad I decided to take my time and actually think about things before doing anything. All your posts have been very helpful, even though they are two sided. I'm glad I didn't apologise and i don't feel the need to anymore. You are right, I don't need a women that will just piss my time away, and this is something I take very seriously. I never make people wait on me and I expect the same in return. A simple apology from her end will solve everything. I'm always ready to forgive, and she should know this as I am a nice guy (sometimes too nice), and if I don't get the apology so be it. In the end, I haven't lost much.

All in all it was a nice couple of dates, and she was a a nice person to get to know, but there are plenty of fish in the sea.

Thanks for all the comments!

[surfhb2]

I'm glad I decided to take my time and actually think about things before doing anything. All your posts have been very helpful, even though they are two sided. I'm glad I didn't apologise and i don't feel the need to anymore. You are right, I don't need a women that will just piss my time away, and this is something I take very seriously. I never make people wait on me and I expect the same in return. A simple apology from her end will solve everything. I'm always ready to forgive, and she should know this as I am a nice guy (sometimes too nice), and if I don't get the apology so be it. In the end, I haven't lost much.

All in all it was a nice couple of dates, and she was a a nice person to get to know, but there are plenty of fish in the sea.

Thanks for all the comments!

That's right!! Bang the drum brother! **** these bitches. Lol

Women have most of the power anyway.....dont let them take more

[HeartIsAching]

I'm with the boys on this one. Leaving you driving around for an hour, waiting for her, is completely unacceptable. And I don't know if I should share this secret, but if a girl needs to make up time, it is entirely possible to shower, dress and do her face/hair in 15mins flat. Yes, it's true that she may not look as 'finished' as she'd like, but hey, that's life.

People who are continually late are selfish. They think that other people's time is not as important as their own. This girl of your just had a lesson that the world does not revolve around her...and she doesn't like the lesson.

I don't think you're an asshole.

I also think that expecting others to wait on you is rude... particularly if she's "almost ready" an HOUR after they had initially planned and a full half-hour after her requested extension.

It was rude of the OP to just go home, but I think all he really owed her was a "I'm going home. Call me later" text.

[searock]

I also think that expecting others to wait on you is rude... particularly if she's "almost ready" an HOUR after they had initially planned and a full half-hour after her requested extension.

It was rude of the OP to just go home, but I think all he really owed her was a "I'm going home. Call me later" text.

This ^^^!

[BackUpOrGetStng]

I think all he really owed her was a "I'm going home. Call me later" text.

Why? So she could ignore it for another hour?

[HeartIsAching]

What does courtesy cost?