Trying to change a pattern

[mwtzzz]

Don't say "let me know if you've any suggestions for what to do"
Instead say "Tell me what day you're planning for us to go out and what you have planned for us"

If he responds with the same lackadaisical "I dunno" then simply say you don't go out with a guy who doesn't know how to plan a date.

[mwtzzz]

Uh, why should a guy try to "impress" you? Why aren't you making an equal effort to try to impress him?

In dating, the woman isn't some great prize for whom the guy must jump through hoops in order to win. Dating is just about getting to know someone. That's it. There SHOULDN'T be a lot of big gestures, extra effort, and money spending by either party, at least in the beginning. You're just trying to figure out if you are a decent fit for each other.

Is it reasonable that you want to be asked out? Sure. But if you expect anything beyond, "Want to get a coffee with me tomorrow?" you have unrealistic expectations about the early stages of dating.

huh??

this is about the opposite of any reasonable advice on dating