She's pregnant, I'm not with her, should I be?

[Undercover_]

If she is as intelligent and wonderful as you say she is, don't you think people (including other men) tell her all the time? I think you underestimate her. You seem to be egotistical (no offense), but if you've already hurt her, I doubt she will just take you back if do decide to try to work things out. She won't be there forever and time is ticking. Either you want to be with her or you don't. It's that simple. I'm glad that you want to be a good father, so in that case not only are you hurting her anymore, you're also hurting him. He's going to see how his father treats his mom and he's going to learn and pick up on that. Also, Loren is going to be a mother, so expect her to protect her child. Even if that means she has to protect him from you. So be a role-model to your son. Loren deserves a lot better than you and you know this or else you wouldn't be insecure about her. Can you blame her if she goes back to Florida? It's natural for a woman that is creating a family to want to be with hers, especially if she doesn't have anyone else. It seems to me that you've been selfish since day one. Don't expect her to stay and wait for you. Don't chose to be with her because of selfish reasons, choose to be with her for everything that she is. I'm sure there's things that she has a passion for that you don't...being a fitness fanatic is just a childish excuse. I agree with an above post, maybe you should consider counseling.
I'm glad you can admit your faults & I wish you both the best. I hope everything works out for all three of you!

[pcmaster]

Well you saying she loves you and you are crazy about kid so thats enough to keep you two together. Eventualy feelings level out. That means she would love you less and you would love her more after time. Think its wrong to leave woman with kid, kid needs a father too. Money(child support) is BS cause she sounds like a girl who have enough her own money. If you want to be a father then give it a shot - at least year or so. What you have to lose anyway.