the dividing line...

[Asip4u]

I truly believe that pretty much anyone can quit. If you care about her, you should do it...Unfortunately, for some people...stupidity knows no bounds.

[gHEXjt]

I found myself in a very similar situation when I was 18 and my ex acted the same way towards it as your girl is now. I smoked quite a bit, and she finally let me know how much it was upsetting her. An addiction to something like marijuana is purely psychological, at least in my opinion, and when I saw how much it was hurting her to be around me when I was blazed caused me to stop, cold turkey. That was 3 years ago this October, and I haven't touched the stuff since. It all comes down to how much you're willing to sacrifice for the person you love. However, it seems you're not in the right mindset to sacrifice much for her considering you just posted last week that you cheated on your girl. And smoking outside the house is not a sacrifice, its a half-assed attempt to convince yourself you're doing something to help the situation. If you love this girl, stop being a ****in dick and a)treat her better and stop pulling all this shit, or b)break up with her dude.

[carpflounder]

The funny thing is I beleived that not smoking in the house is a sacrifice. I used to smoke all the time in the house...this bothered her but she just didn't show it for a while. Then she started going on walks every time I smoked. So I thought, well, rather than stinking up the house....I'll just go outside so she doesn't have to smell it and in turn she's not alienated from the house. I go out so she doesn't have to. Half-assed or not, if you and her would look to my intentions you'd see that I'm going outside so that I dont bother her.

I can see it through your angle and her angle though..which is that its just not enough. F*CK. I wish I could keep both my habit and her. I'm just not ready to quit. I feel like peter pan, and I dont mean that in a good way. My own mom sensed that she may eventually break up with me and she talked to me today too. Sh*t.

I haven't cheated since the last time.
This relationship has tied me down a 'lil too though. Whatever happens I dunno.

[carpflounder]

I just got off the phone with her. Now I feel like shit.

[Tone]

Put down the reefer and stop cheating on her.

Time to start being a real man.

[gHEXjt]

Put down the reefer and stop cheating on her.

Time to start being a real man.

What Tone said. If you love her and she's worth it to you, this shit shouldn't be a problem. Otherwise, dump her so she can get on with her life and stop letting you drive her crazy.

[carpflounder]

Things are better for now. Thanks guys.

[mini696]

Things are better for now. Thanks guys.

So you've quit then?

Stop messing with this girls emotions.

[carpflounder]

So you've quit then?

Stop messing with this girls emotions.

Nope haven't quit yet. How am I messing with her emotions? I know that she dislikes marijuana....but I dont use it to "mess" with her.

[Bluevetteracer]

I am sorry you have such low self esteem you have to drugs to like yourself.

I can't believe this is even a topic here.

Have someone take picture of you smoking your crap, then look it, is that more important then a women that loves you.

I don't know how old you are, but grow up, be a man and live your life with some passion. You want a rush, a high???? Try loving a women with passion of ten men. Take her dancing, not the cheesy rap kind, the ballroom type and clear the floor because you are that good. Look into her eyes the whole time. It will make your heart burn on fire. Want a rush; try breaking the sound barrier and hitting mach 2. But that would mean you would have to put the joint out and get off the couch.


Drugs are for the weak mind.

[mini696]

How am I messing with her emotions?

Because this is the one thing she has asked you to do for her. It is obviously something she hates, but you refuse to quit. It shows that your pot is more important to you than she is.

I have made that mistake before, and my ex-fiance left me because of it. I have quit for my new GF. Of course there are more problems to replace that one, but it was something that only I could do, my GF couldn't quit for me.

Mick

[bluesummer]

I understand many people's arguments here, but there's another thing to consider: he does have the right to do what he enjoys in life, as long as it's not hurting anyone else, and she should accomodate him on some level.

So Carp, if you really really can't live without smoking weed, then she should not be upset about you doing it on your own time, far away from her, and make sure you are not high or smelling like it around her. As far as I'm concerned, that's showing a lot of respect for her feelings. She obviously has known all along that you smoke weed, and if she doesn't like it and is trying to change you, she shouldn't be dating you. Case closed. I don't think you should have to quit for her, but try to respect her feelings on it.

BTW, I may seem a little more lax on the weed issue than most people, but that's because I'm from Canada, where it's practically legal. I don't think I even know anyone that's never smoked it, honestly.

[updraft]

I'm sh**t out of ideas I dont want to quit, I dont want to break up. Any suggestions?

Did you tell her mom how you cheat on her daughter too?

[updraft]

I am sorry you have such low self esteem you have to drugs to like yourself.

I now you're new here, but did you know he has a habitual cheating problem as well? Review the thread "Cheating" in the Sex Talk forum started by Carpflounder. Maybe the pot has gone to his brain and clouded his judgement re: fidelity, or lack thereof.

[Bluevetteracer]

That confirms my initial character assessment, low self esteem. If you need validation so much as to have to gain acceptance from a women that will have sex with you, when you are in a committed relationship says more about him then the person he cheats on.

Needing sex, so badly as to disrespect the confines of your relationship, only says "I don't think anything of myself, would you sleep with me to confirm that I am an acceptable person". "I need you to validate my self esteem".
I am sure he feels good, like the man, when he is bedding down a girl, a conquer.

I have no respect for anyone that uses drugs. They are week, lowly cowards of society. They are wasting whatever ability god gave them.
Sorry to be so harsh, but I am not going to appease it.

"Drugs or my girl" "Drugs or a life"

Dude, what if you are the guy that is going to make a good doctor, or benefit mankind in some way. Get off the couch, put the joint out, and find out what you were meant to do in life.