Distancing, a big, big turn off!

[moeburn]

are you sure its a turn off

it sounds like its making you want them even more

[Mish]

"it sounds like its making you want them even more" by moeburn

Where in my posts did you find evidence for that assumption? I am prepared to make concessions due to dating scene still being young, but it is a very repulsive behaviour because it gives an impression that my company is of little or no value. I am prepared to be diplomatic about it (I don't want to trespass on her freedoms), but i will not tolerate it in the long run.

I think any form of distancing is an effective way of ruining a relationship, so yes, very sure!

[Rosebud]

well to be honest about asking what she wants out of a relationship, I think it's still a little too early for you. Normally those things just kinda come up in casual conversation, and I think they will all in due time. But I think it's still important to go with the flow here and just enjoy each other's company. You don't want to rush anything because your not sure of where they are heading. Be patient it will come all in due time!!!!! Don't worry and just have fun.

[Mish]

Hi clynn

It worked! She asked me out this time and we had a lovely date last night, Yay!!!

So it's all good once again. No more trouble in paradise

I think this girl is the most compatible (Not to mention beautiful) girl i have ever dated, so maybe i should take it easy with this one negative aspect (Maybe, turn a blind eye for now in favour of building the relationship)

P.S. Thanks Rosebud, your advice is working!!!

[Journey]

Congratulatons! Nicely done Mishanya.
I am currently employing this "wait" strategy. She had to go back to South America in early August, but before she left she told me she'd be back in October. I e-mailed her in mid-September asking if she would be coming back. I haven't heard anything from her since then. But I think its in her court so I haven't contacted her again. Waiting sucks. There are other factors at play here, but I love her dearly and I wish every day that I at least I got an e-mail. The Journey continues..

[misombra]

journey!!!

[Tone]

Oh, hey Journey - I knew your name sounded familiar!!

[Mish]

Arrrgggg, she did it again. Just got a message (One hour before the date) postponing the date to next saturday (Sad, watery eyes)

I told her, it's okay if we move it to next week since she had a big night last night and needs some rest.

Sorry, this is the bit where i need to let out the disappointment, I need to do this so I don't do it in the real world:

Argggg, grrrrrrrr (Grinds his teeth), Why did she? Why only an hour notice? Why can't I be a higher priotiry??? Why does she do this so early in the relationship??? What should i do? Doesn't she care about how this makes me feel? What about my plans for today??? What about me??? Grrrrrrr, grrrr, grrrr

Okay that made me feel better Might go down to my friend place to watch some movies and drink some beer.

Well, there are two more date pospone cards left, before i start fussing. Hope she doesn't use them all ):

[shh!]

You are being WAY too nice to her and she is playing you like a cheap violin...

[Mish]

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