It's like watching a series on tv. You think you know the person.
But you forget he's just an actor. In private he could be totally different
The erson doesn't exist outside the series. They are not real. It doesn't matter how much they try to make you believe otherwise. Or maybe you deluded yourself.
The way to go next time is to check wether people are who they present to be or wether they pretend instead.
Also to check wether your images of them ( who you think they are) is in line with how they act ( not so much what they say)
If you think I am insulting you with my post or bashing you: You do not get the point.
I am not here to insult or bash anyone. I offer up my free time to help. Take from my post what is useful to you.
If you are angry about my post or myself, then please stop and think how that happened. Usually that is the way the brain responds if a critical belief system is challenged (its called cognitive dissonance). If you have trouble with it please answer in the thread. I will come back to you.