is he into me?really desperate to know.

[aaliyah_2001]

yeah alot of people do break up because one has outgrown the other. i just feel like there's chemistry there whether it's just attraction or something more i don't know. there was a stage there where we were talking all of the time and then he went real quiet for a little while. i tried talking to him again and he responded well. He wasn't mean or anything. although he has never really been mean before apart from when he's teasing me. and now even is friends are being nice to me. do people act like this when they are attracted to other people or is it more?

[Junket]

yeah alot of people do break up because one has outgrown the other. i just feel like there's chemistry there whether it's just attraction or something more i don't know. there was a stage there where we were talking all of the time and then he went real quiet for a little while. i tried talking to him again and he responded well. He wasn't mean or anything. although he has never really been mean before apart from when he's teasing me. and now even is friends are being nice to me. do people act like this when they are attracted to other people or is it more?

You're dumB.

And who said guys are the ones who can't read body language?

[aaliyah_2001]

i'm not dumb i just haven't had very much experience.

[Junket]

i'm not dumb i just haven't had very much experience.

You're timid, shy, and think way too much to be of any benefit to your situation.

There is a point where you're analyzing things way too much.

Go with the flow.

Or get out of the water.

Don't half-ass it.

The more time you spend thinking about this shit, the more time you'll have wasted.

[aaliyah_2001]

The one thing that concerns me is this guys 10-15 years older and he's single.doesn't that usually mean there's something wrong with him and how he relates to women?he's always saying how glad he is that he never got married.

[Ellynn]

The one thing that concerns me is this guys 10-15 years older and he's single.doesn't that usually mean there's something wrong with him and how he relates to women?he's always saying how glad he is that he never got married.

Ok so he's more then 10 yrs older then you huh? So what exactly is his age?

Also, a lot of men who haven't found someone they could EVEN see marrying, usually say that they are glad they never got married. I mean yeah, maybe there is something wrong with him. But I just think your making excuses. Just because he hasn't found someone to settle down with doesn't mean its all him. I mean not everyone finds someone they can see themselves settling down with right away. Plus, I think its better then rushing into marriage, having a bunch of kids, and then divorcing.

You have two choices here. YOu can either walk away and rule him out only because you are afraid of getting involved or you can take him up on a date and really find out what he's all about. Remember, a date doesn't mean you necessarily have to be with him. Get to know him better and then maybe you can gauge how well the two of you could get along in a relationship.

[aaliyah_2001]

yes its more than 10 years. i won't say how much more but yeah.he's not like 40 or anything.

[Mathias]

The one thing that concerns me is this guys 10-15 years older and he's single.doesn't that usually mean there's something wrong with him and how he relates to women?he's always saying how glad he is that he never got married.

Maybe he IS glad he didn't get married. We've all dodged bullets.

[Junket]

Aaliyah, it doesn't sound like you are too comfortable with the idea of dating him...

And that's okay, afterall, I'm not comfortable dating guys 10-15 years older than me either.

[aaliyah_2001]

I believe i like the idea of dating him but if it ever became a reality i wouldn't know what to do because i am the type of person who likes a guy and if i got a chance to be with them it freaks me out so i would probably say no. and thats not just him thats anyone.

[Junket]

I think all this hesitation is your conscience warning you not to do it.

No, she's the over-analytical type.

She has trouble trying to rationalize any kind of relationship.

It wasn't until recent that I came to realize most any kind of romantic relationship is by very nature irrational.

[Gigabitch]

That's why emotions supercede rationality. Otherwise, the species would die out.

[aaliyah_2001]

thanks for all your advice it has really helped me alot.